Post # 1
Do you find yourself spending crazy amounts of money on things that you would normally scoff/roll on the floor laugh at to put so much moolah towards?
See I’m the opposite. I can’t get over that scoff/roll on the floor laugh at how much money things cost for a wedding. The big thing for me right now is photography. Its not a huge priority per se, but I would obviously like some decent shots not taken by family of our day. I can’t stomach the idea of paying someone so much. A thousand bucks is BIG for us to put that into perspective. I get why photogs charge alot, its not that….I just can’t help but think…will I really be that much happier with this and that from a pro, or is it more about the documentation and being able to look back for me? Or sometimes I think…that would take off a nice chunk of student or car loan payments.
I’m not so much looking for advice here, just wondering how others feel and are dealing with this.
Post # 3
FI and I were just talking about this kind of thing the other day. We’re relatively cheap/simple people and we wouldn’t really even think about going to a restaurant and spending 50/person on just the two of us… the fact that we’re considering it for 100 people is INSANE! haha
Post # 4
I had a hard time getting over it too. I definately became a lot more aware of just how much some things cost. But we also kept things down by having people that were just getting into business. That way you can still get really neat talent, usually at a good deal less, and though it’s probably not as perfect as if you spend 1000s more, they’re usually a lot more accomadating at the beginning stages of their careers.
Post # 5
I do! We tried to get as many non-wedding things as possible. Our menu is an event menu since our venue has a separate one for weddings. The 1st time I went to David’s Bridal I saw a dress I kind of liked but my mom kept saying “For a $300 wedding gown it’s great” – my point was, if it was a $300 dress at Macy’s I wouldn’t buy it, so why would I spend that at DB?
Post # 6
Story of my life. I’m a notorious cheapskate. We both gagged when we made all our payments…5K here, 3K there….it all adds up. To an extent, for a party and the officially “yay we’re legally married now!” lol. It took me awhile to get used to the mortgage!
Post # 7
I would say that you can skimp or forgo as many things as you want but definitely find a good photographer. Professional or somebody who has a professional-like portfolio. There are great photography students or photographers who are starting out. If you’re asking a friend to do it, make sure that friend has photography experience and not just an amateur. Photography is the only thing you have to look back upon, it’s definitely for documentations sake. You’ll be spending $ on food and drinks for your guests and everything else for this big day. Document it.
I can’t tell you how many married couples I know who regret not getting a professional photographer. bTW, thousands of $ for a whole day of work for a photographer makes sense to me.. considering that it’s a whole day of shooting, plus 1-2 days of consultation/planning and 2-3 days (or more) of organization and editing.
I can relate that it’s a struggle. For me, if it’s a big chunk of $, then I think about it a lot and talk to my DH or my family about the value of it. Having multiple ppl convene over a big decision usually give me a good idea of what’s worthwhile and what’s not.
Post # 8
Bamboo, definately do a lot of shopping/price comparison on photographers. That was a HUGE deal to me, and I looked more at photographers & their prices than I did at wedding cake vendors or even dresses!
You can really get some good deals if you check out the different ‘packages’ the photographers offer. They usually have the most expensive down to the least expensive, and even if you choose the very least expensive (like I did) you can still get a great deal.
DEFINATELY check out their websites and request a meeting with them to show you their portfolios and get a feel for what they are capable of. This is my photographer <cite>www.juniperphoto.com </cite> 🙂
For instance, my photographer has photog packages that start in the $1300.00 range and go all the way down to $350.00, which, I am not ashamed to say, is the one I got. She has been doing it for awhile, and her mom is also a photographer, and her portfolio & website are wonderful. Plus she was a really delightful person face to face as well. I met with 2 people in person, and she is who I chose.
She will be with me the entire day if I want her to, PLUS she gives me 2 cd’s, one black/white & one in color, AND RELEASES THE COPYRIGHT! ALL FOR $350.00!!
No I don’t get a fancy/schmancy album, but who cares?! LOL
Post # 9
Sorry Bamboo 🙁
I gave you my advice when you weren’t really looking for any! 😛 I got so excited about the photography, I didn’t even read the entire post!
Post # 10
I just know that once I actually sit down with a budget and how much things cost, I’m going to absolutely freak out. And I’m not looking forward to it at ALL. I want a real wedding with lots of people without the big price tag… it’s going to get ugly in my head (my parents will give us about $40k I think)
Post # 11
okqueenbee: haha, thats totally cool!
I’ve been looking into stuff and there was one photog that has a small package that would suit us and not be too expensive, but it says explicitly on her site that its not available may-october!!! AHHH!
I think I’m going to post something over at the art building and hope a bunch of students are interested and I can interview them.
Its not just photography for me…its everything where I’m like, WHAT? Cuz I would never drop so much in my life on like anything.