I'm terrible at posing for pictures

posted 3 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@cbco:  maybe you can ask the photographer to prompt you, but sometimes the best pictures are the candid ones. 


Post # 4
2878 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Honestly, I think it’s all about being relaxed.  My photographer was an ‘amateur’ – my godsister – but part of the reason I was happy to go with her is that she is amazing at doing portraits.  She refuses to photograph those awkward posed smiles, but rather works with you to make you just laugh or be natural.  Of course, I was laughing and smiling like a crazy person for my whole wedding so it wasn’t an issue… there’s so many photos of me just laughing out loud; DH and I were so happy that although we both hate posing for photos, it wasn’t an issue at all.  To be fair, we didn’t do many of the traditional ‘wedding portraits’ like the fancy artsy awkwardly posed ones; we did formal photos with just us, with bridal party, and with families, and the rest of the photos are just candid from the ceremony and reception, and I LOVE them. 

Okay, the point of that long story being… you will be so happy day-of that I think that will shine through and eliminate the awkward posing issue.

ETA: Yes, you will look like an idiot in some photos, but you will also get some amazing ones.  That’s the photographer’s job, to go through and differentiate the two 🙂

Post # 5
1315 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2006

First off I’ve never in my 7 years of doing this heard a single person tell me they were good at posing for photos.  Everyone says they are awkward at posing for photos.  Everyone has some issue with how they look, especially girls.  At some point you have to let go of all of that a little and let the photographer do their job.  Hopefully you’ve hired someone who gives you direction when you need it, whose work you love, and who you can trust to make you look your best.

Post # 6
2173 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Ask your photographer for direction!  But in general, here are some things I do/have noticed help:

1) Tilt chin down just ever so slightly and cock head- then it’s not a straight on LOOK AT ME, I’M IN YOUR FACE pose.  (The might only be my issue.)

2) Turn slightly sideways- straight on isn’t quite as flattering for whatever reason.

3) Don’t just sit there- cross your ankles and sit up straight with shoulders back, but relaxed and not like a board.

4) Never let your hands just sit at your sides- fold them, touch something, pop that elbow- anything, really.

Post # 7
820 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@cbco:  Just relax and have fun. If you worry about looking like an idiot it will show in your pics.

Post # 8
199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

do you have any friends who are good with a camera – try to do some practice photos with them to get more comfortable with the camera and to get a better idea of the angles and positions that are best for you.

Post # 9
1970 posts
Buzzing bee

I have a lot of problems with blinking and squinting–my eyes are very sensitive to light, including camera flashes.  One of the ways that photographers have dealt with this is by having me close my eyes as they count down from three.  When they say “one!” I am supposed to open my eyes, and they will take the photo at the same time–apparently by doing it this way I avoid the blink (which happens) from getting caught on camera because my eyes can’t open and close quickly enough.  This technique really has cut down significantly on the number of photos I have ruined by having my eyes closed (or, even worse, the dreaded one eye open, one eye closed pose).

Post # 10
2783 posts
Sugar bee

@cbco:  I have no advice for you..but you’re not alone!!!! I hate every picture ever taken of me. I look like an idiot, no matter what I do.

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