- 3 years ago
I feel pretty pathetic posting something like this when I just joined the Bee a few weeks ago.
Yesterday my BF left his house at 6 in the morning to go on a hike in a remote part of the Sierra Nevadas. We saw each other last night, and an hour or two into our time hanging out, I found out that when he went on his hike, he brought the girl he liked shortly before he started dating me. I only found this out because he accidentally said “we” when talking about his hike and I asked him who “we” was. He beat around the bush a little before telling me he’d brought this girl.
After he told me, I became quiet for a few minutes to process what he’d told me, and he asked me what was wrong. I told him it was funny that he’d made it sound like he went by himself until I asked, and that it seemed like he didn’t want me to know for some reason. He got defensive and said, “I didn’t tell you because I wanted you to ask me about my trip.” I only didn’t ask him because he started talking about it on his own immediately when we saw each other.
Some background: a few months ago, he went to a party at this girl’s house. I wasn’t invited, he said he was only going to be there for a little while, and he ended up staying out until the middle of the night without even texting me to let me know he was okay. By the way, it was a going-away party for her before she moved to France, and she just recently moved back.
More recently, I have glimpsed texts from her on his phone, and he’s become more secretive with his phone, never leaving me alone with it for more than a few seconds.
He always refers to her as his friend, but also says that she’s not a very good person, she’s skanky, blah blah blah. I can see why he would like her, though. She’s pretty, she’s flirtatious, and she doesn’t wear much clothing.
Like most men, he has always said he respects women, he could never in a million years cheat on me, he could never do anything to jeopardize our relationship, blah blah blah. I know he didn’t technically cheat on me that I know of, and it may sound like I’m making a big deal out of nothing, but I had already been having serious doubts about us, and this was the last straw. Sooo I think I know what to do now.