(Closed) I'm the daughter on the bride

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Member
653 posts
Busy bee

Don’t feel hurt. The more you feel hurt, the more likely you will feel bitter and be negative. Be happy that your mother is marrying someone she loves. She knows that you will feel hurt, but here’s the thing, once you found that one dress, you know you have to get it, otherwise, it might not be there anymore.

Try to put yourself in her shoes and be happy for her 🙂

Post # 4
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1304 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Really?  I am not trying to minimize your feelings, but it’s just dress shopping.

*Personally*, I didn’t feel like my wedding dress was such a big deal.  I just wanted sometihng that I liked.  I also didn’t want to make a huge fuss over shopping, and I really would not have been able to handle opinions from a gazillion people.  I brought one bridesmaid with me to a sample sale, found a dress that fit and that I liked, and was done.

There are other ways to be involved in a wedding.

Post # 6
Member
3041 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I can understand that you’re hurt, I would have been too. However, what’s done is done – so you’ll have to find something else to get excited about. Could the two of you go out and search for a dress for you, shoes, do a cake sampling? Just something so that you’ll have some fun time together with her.

Post # 7
Member
2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

try not to feel hurt. it wasn’t personal or about you, it was about the dress.

Post # 8
Member
1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@dotofbride:  FWIW I didn’t take my kids dress shopping. I took my sister.  it’s not something you really envision doing with your children, but your sisters and bffs.  don’t feel hurt. she didn’t go out and purposlly snide you, you were to go and you couldn’t.  be happy for her ! 🙂

Post # 9
Member
1359 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@eocenia:  +1.

I think that what hurts now will fade. Try to find other ways you can be involved, as your mom is clearly aware this hurt your feelings and so will probably be open to finding new ways to make you feel included. And there is never a shortage of wedding-related events…fittings, tastings, vendor appointments, shopping for your wedding attire, finding the venue, bridal shower, all kinds of things you two could do together.

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