Im the MOH but live on the other side of the country…..

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
988 posts
Busy bee


Kslim13:  Even as MOH, you’re under no obligation to throw her parties (shower/engagement/bachelorette/etc.), so keep that in mind should you ever start to feel guilty about not being there to contribute. Honestly, I’d say be as involved as you want to be/can be. Let the other BM know that since you live so far away, that it would be okay with you if they wanted to take over the planning. Let them know the extent you are willing to help (i.e. will you help cover costs? Be willing to create invites/help with the invite list? Or do you want no part of the planning?) As long as they are aware of the situation, they should be able to take over

Post # 3
2428 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

That was a similar situation for my sister, for my wedding. She was out of state for school, so my 2 bffs coordinated everything. I told them that I wanted to go to Vegas and they ran with it from there. They kept my sister in the loop with emails and texts and she was able to give some input.

Are you friends with her other 2 bridesmaids or have their email addresses/numbers? You could start by initiating bachelorette and bridal shower talk if you haven’t already been discussing it. I think staying connected as best you can is the important thing.

Post # 4
992 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Kslim13:  My MOH’s are on total opposite sides from me too, one is in NY and other is in Cali. The one in California flew in for my dress appointments since I was with her when she found her dress. That in itself was amazing if you could do it.

When I was MOH for my MOH I put together a photo book from all the girls and a letter from her mom that I gave to her the morning of the wedding. So that’s an idea that you can do from afar 🙂

Post # 5
2813 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I am my sisters MOH she lives in cali and I live In Massachusetts. I have been calling vendors when I get off work for her. And I will be planning her bridal shower when I go visit next year. I contacted an aunt we will have it at her house. Remember while its 6pm here it’s three there if she needs vendors to be called you can do that!

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