Post # 1
My fiancee and I have been discussing our wedding plans more in depth recently. He has a sister who is 3 years older than him and two older brothers who are twins that are 13 years older than him. Basically growing up he was close to his sister. I started dating my FI when I was 16 and by that time his sister was going to college out of state and I would only see 5 times a year. She will be moving back to our area in November for a job transfer. My FI is exicited about this and I don’t blame him because he has never been close to his brothers and one lives in the Phillipines and the other lives in Florida. My fiancee and I agree to five people on each side for the wedding party. I have a brother and sister. My brother is going to be an usher. My FI is planning to ask his 2 brothers to be groomsmen even though they aren’t close. He didn’t mention anything about his sister. Lately I have been thinking about asking his sister to be on my side as bridesmaid. I was originally going to have my sister, one cousin and two close friends. My cousin has three kids and I think it will be ok to not have in the bridal party.
Have any of you had experiences with the groom’s sister as bridesmaid and how did it go?
Post # 3
I think it’s a good idea, you’ll have lots of prewedding activities which will get you a chance to get closer.
My hubby doesn’t have a sister, but I was in my brother’s wedding. She was actually my friend first and met my brother through me, so it made sense that I would be in it. It was a lot of fun to be in their wedding, and meant a lot to me that she asked.
Post # 4
My fiance’s little sister will be my bridesmaid…its good:) I’m not asking her to do much though, because she’s only 14! I find her really nice to talk to and a supportive person, so I can’t imagine my day without her! 🙂
Post # 5
i am having my FH’s sister as one of my bridesmaids. he has no other siblings and wanted his sister included in the party and me and his sister get along really well so it was natural that should would be in my bridal party
Post # 6
My FI’s sister is one of my bridesmaids and my little brother is one of his groomsmen. I think it’s a nice gesture to include them and, to me, it sets a nice family-oriented tone. You’re marrying into the family as well, so you might as well have them surrounding you!
Post # 7
I agree, I think you should definitely do this, you will be family after all, and no better to have in your bridal party than family 🙂 I think she would really appreciate it too and it will bring you all closer.
Post # 8
I had my husband’s sister as a bridesmaid. I didn’t know her that well before we got engaged and it was a good chance to get to know her.
I wrote in her thankyou card that having her be a bridesmaid is a great way to start off a lifetime of being a part of eachother’s big moments. I think it’s just a good way to show that you’ll come together as a family.
Barring any major reason NOT to invite a FSIL, I say go for it.
Post # 9
If you want her to, I think that’s awesome, but if you see it more as a “nice thing to do” or an obligation, why not just encourage your FI to have her as a groomsmaid or some such?
Post # 10
I did think about the groomsmaid thing but I don’t see my FI going for it. The other guys that my FI is going to be on his side is two friends and one cousin.