Post # 1
I usually dont like posts about bridesmaids because I feel people expect too much from their bridesmaids but seriously these girls are driving me crazy. I spoke to my BMs last year about the hair style I had in mind. I wanted them to wear their hair up. They could do whatever they want in the front, they can have bangs/side bangs or anything they want as long as the back is up, because I want them to wear these hair sticks for a bit of an oriental vibe.
They all agreed to this so I spent hours strassing out these plain hair sticks I bought for them. Then one of them decided that “updos arent classy enough for weddings and are only ok for going to the gym” then tried to convince the others that they should all refuse to do updos. She wants them to wear their hair down in waves with a flower in the side. I dont want them to wear flowers in their hair!!! But I didnt want to be bridezilla so I calmly explained that updos are classy enough for a wedding and that I myself will be having an updo and I’m the BRIDE!!! All the others then said that they like the updo idea but this one BM is trying to convince them to say no to it. I dont understand her causing unnecessary stress and confusion with 20 days to go. She is now making the biggest deal about this and brings this up every second.
2nd issue is the shoes. Bronze. 1 of them said this is an impossible color to find so she refuses to wear it and wants to wear her own shoes but she wont tell me what color her own shoe is. I searched on endless.com and saw lots of different bronze heels some as cheap as $20 so I sent her the links. She still said she cant find any on there? And she just wants to wear her own shoe and I think her shoe is black. Bear in mind that their dresses are knee length so the shoes are really on display.
at the back of my mind I know that these a minor issues. but with 20 days to go its really disappointing that instead of people finding ways to help or just stay out of my way, they keep calling me and texting me with annoying complaints!
Post # 3
@bells: These are not minor things! They are the details you (THE BRIDE) want and are choosing. Tell them you’ve given them plenty of options and choices for what you want, it’s not like you nailed them down to one super specific thing.
It’s time to say: “Hush your faces and fall in line…it’s one damn day, and it’s ours. End of story.”
Why is it the more freedom you give some people in their choices, the more they want to complain about it? I’ve never understood that.
Post # 4
@Mrs.tobe: Thanks!! It just seems that as we get closer some of them are starting to feel that this is all about them and their vision. And I hate being put in a situation where I have to say, hey its my wedding, shut up and do what I say. I’m assuming that if they had some comments they would have brought it up sooner when I was less stressed about everything!
Post # 5
I don’t think your being a bridezilla at all! This is your day and if they didn’t want to be a part of it then they should have declined the offer to be a bridesmaid in the first place. You are the BRIDE, so at this point everyone should only be trying to make things easier for your rather than complicate them! You deserve to have things your way because if it were their day I’m sure you wouldn’t be acting this way towards them.
Post # 6
@bells:I agree, I’m not a fan of the “shut up it’s my day” line of thinking either. But honestly, I’m a SUPER laid back person, and it seems people suddenly like to run all over that and although I have ideas of what I want, they can suddenly change that for me. I’ve almost lost it SEVERAL times on a few select people.
Post # 7
I think there really should be some type of Bridesmaids 101 class that all BMs have to take! Funny thing is the people who are very difficult bridesmaid end up having zero tolerance for their bridesmaids too
Post # 8
Aw sorry to hear they are being like this..it sounds like they are being a bit selfish and forgetting to concentrate on your, it is your wedding! I have found that people can forget that along the way! How frustrating – hate it when people do this to you at the last minute – with 20 days to go you should be getting the maximum support from those around you. You sound like you have been a very thoughtful and patient bride. I hope you have an amazing day – you will (despite these hiccups)!x