(Closed) I'm too 'frugal' to buy the dress I love, help!

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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203 posts
Helper bee

I think you should treat yourself and get the dress you love. It’s once in a lifetime…and that cost spread over a lifetime is negligible. You could also sell the dress after you’ve used it to recoup some money if that makes you feel better!

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

get the dress you love! It’s not THAT much more, you can always sell it after. It’s your big day – splurge a little!

Post # 5
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441 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Dress alterations alone can be expensive. You could have easily gotten a $300 dress that cost several hundred in alterations, so I think you have a pretty good deal there if you get this dress and it doesn’t need to be altered much. 

Another option would be to ask a replica dressmaker like DressilyMe and/or Jasmine’s Bridal Shop how much it would cost for them to replicate the dress, because there is a chance that they could do it for less…but that’s also riskier since the replica probably will not be exactly like the original dress (since they probably won’t have a fabrica that looks EXACTLY like the original) and you might not be as pleased with it. 

If you really can’t afford to spend that much on a dress, there are certainly ways to get a cheaper dress (saw some nice gowns for $150 at Brides Against Breast Cancer’s dress event, the aforementioned Jasmine’s / DressilyMe option, consignment stores, preowned dresses) but if you can afford it and just feel bad splurging, don’t, because there’s nothing wrong with wanting a dress you love for your wedding.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

lol. When I first started looking, $300 was my limit too. My dress was $950 after tax. So, I cant really say anything. Honestly, its not that much more and if you love it, just buy it.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Do you have any pictures of you in the dress? If we could all see how beautiful it looked on you, it might make it easier/harder togive you the advice you’re looking for. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I want a cheap dress too, but around $600 for something that you really love doesn’t feel that bloody! I think you should get it and then you can either sell it afterwards or shorten it further into a summer dress (and use the left over lace for a christening robe!).

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m not even sure a replica would be cheap enough to be worth trying out.  If you can afford it and it seems reasonable (which $600 seems very reasonable for a wedding dress to me) then it’s up to you to decide if it’s worth it.  I’m frugal as hell too, my dress was about $400 including alterations, but like you said, I work hard and if I find something I just have to have and its not too outrageous, then I deserve it.

Post # 10
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535 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Look at Recycled Bride (they recently merged with another group and I can’tremember the new name). I was the same as you. Found my dress at DB for 650, then started llooking online.  Found the exact same dress brand new on recycled bride for 300, plus veil and slip came with. It was also near my brother so he was able to pick it up for me. Don’t write off your dream dress just yet, you might find it somewhere else cheaper. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m pretty frugal, too.  My dress was a sample gown so I got it for dirt cheap.  I feel like $600 isn’t bad if it doesn’t need much alterations so I’d buy it!  You could also look into Recycled Bride or Ebay or maybe Etsy to see one of the sellers make knock-offs (I’ve seen Jcrew lookalike dresses on there). 

Post # 12
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847 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

@liveswithmutts:  It’s your wedding dress! I think that if there’s one thing you can justifiably splurge on its this. If you buy a cheap knock off version there will be a big difference in quality. Getting a seamstress to make one for you will be more expensive anyway and it won’t be the same so just get the dress! Come on! Pleeeeaaasssseeeee do this for yourself. 

Post # 13
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216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Recycled Bride is now Tradesy. I say keep looking for a little bit. David’s always has the same sales/dresses. Their inventory won’t change in a month to where you can’t go back and get it if you want to.

Post # 14
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3157 posts
Sugar bee

Wow, that’s really pretty. It looks like it’s new too so no one will have one used yet. I think I would have considered that dress had it been available when I was looking.

Post # 15
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1311 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Just get it if you love it. You get one wedding!

I was hoping to spend less then $1,000 but after all the taxes and alterations my dress will be $2,000. My Fiance told me to just go ahead and splurge if I do love something ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

This is just a thought but maybe you could ask DB if they have a floor sample that they would be willing to sell to you for less? There is arisk that the dress might be damaged but it would be worth a shot. ๐Ÿ™‚ But it wouldn’t hurt to ask them especially if you LOVE the dress. ๐Ÿ™‚ Good luck! I understand wanting to be cheap. I originally set my dress budget to $500 or less and I ended up spending $1300. 

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