im torn…..

posted 2 years ago in Beehive
Post # 2
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1987 posts
Buzzing bee

You’re having a pot-luck dinner for your wedding reception? Your guests have to bring their own food? 

Post # 3
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442 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

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Post # 4
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187 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: mountain venue

if you insist on being a cheapskate then go to the courthouse, i am all about cutting costs but its absolutely tacky to have a potluck and take advantage of a family reunion like that.

Post # 5
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710 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I think after remembering your post about your fiancé making you sick you shouldn’t still be planning a wedding at all.

Post # 6
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7197 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Though other posters have put it a little rudely, I’ve got to agree that potluck is a bad idea unless everyone’s on board with it.

But potluck is the least of your problems. I agree with gamerlover:  . Let’s review your old thread: you’re 19, he’s 27 and not the father of your child. He calls you names, criticises your weight (and you’re only 120 lb) and he wants you to stop complaining and give him more sex. Really, honey, this man sounds like a complete douchebag and you shouldn’t be marrying him. (Which is what every single person said on the other thread).

Post # 7
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314 posts
Helper bee

I’m confused– if this reunion is a campground and everyone is camping… how is it going to be a potluck? everyone is going to bring hot dogs and chips?

Post # 8
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916 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I’m glad no one here is judgemental…

 

My best friend’s wedding was a mix of a pot-luck and bbq.  We cooked appetizers and guests were asked, if they were willing, to make their favorite (small) dishes and fill out a recipe card for her wedding to pair with her (catered) bbq dinner.  I had a blast at her wedding, and the food was amazing.  I loved trying different foods.  Recipe’s were shared and everyone really enjoyed it.

Post # 9
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3016 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

I went to a pot luck wedding in a forest once  and it was cute. But I agree that it seems odd that people who are camping are also going to be cooking dishes. Where?

I will add my voice to those concerned about WHO you are marrying. If he criticizes you constantly… I wish I could shake some sense into you!!! There are NICE men out there! Don’t settle and sell yourself and your child short. Get independent, get a job, and raise your child yourself rather than settle for a dickhead. 

Post # 10
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195 posts
Blushing bee

I was considering a very small (less than 30 people) potluck-style wedding reception in the backyard, asking family members to make (or help us make) a dish of theirs that he or I love. His grandmother makes great twice-baked potatoes, my aunt makes fantastic spinach dip. We’d pay for the ingredients.<br /><br />I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it as long as you don’t DEMAND people bring something.<br /><br />It all depends on the situation, though. This doesn’t sound like a good situation to do something like that, and I don’t think you should be getting married at all, OP. Your guy sounds like a total shithead.

Post # 11
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450 posts
Helper bee

I really don’t think the potluck thing is the issue here !

OP why oh why are you still considering marrying this man.  Please answer.

OP how can you seriously put your poor son through this scenario.  Please answer.

 

Post # 12
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562 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

sarals24:  why are you being so rude? There’s no need to respond to the OP in all caps, calm down.

ETA: I think you mean the Enter key, not the Space bar. She’s using the space bar just fine.

Post # 13
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562 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Damiansmum10:  Hun, reading through your previous thread, I think you should reconsider marrying this man, especially if he’s causing you to be physically sick, that’s a huge sign that something’s wrong.

Post # 14
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6048 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Well I hope OP feels the support from this community. On top of jer questionable FI we have piled on and criticized her just like he does. Demanding she answer to us.

 

Anyway OP the problem with the camground is that unless there is a kitchen it’s going to be hard to make things or defrost things. I’ve been to a campground where they do have those.  dont think having it the same time as your reunion is a horrific idea….lots of people post on here about how its their day NOT a family reunion and complaining so I dont see a big deal as long as your family is on board.

 

Have you talked to anyine outside of your family about some of your own concerns about your marriage?  You may want to just to get a clearer picture of everything. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

shazzshazshz:  The space bar comment was based on the lack of space after every full stop and comma. Yes she was unnecessarily rude but she was correct.

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