Post # 1
So ive been planning this wedding out.Its on the weekend on my moms family renuion,its the same place. its cheaper for us that way. we are going to get married,have a day after of floating on the river.and so on a nice camping weekend. My cousin is making my wedding cake,the place we getting married at is free due to its on the same weekened and place,my moms friend are DJs so they doing it for free also. We gonig to have a pot luck dinner. So my fiance and I are paying for my dress which is 530.00 dollars,our cake topper was 102.00 dollars. im going to buy flowers,pay for shipping on the girls outfits. and buy stuff for favors and decore for the wedding. we went and say the palce it is just a feild with some tree where they said we can get married at on the campground. which i dont mind theres a lot of space. But my fiance doesnt like it so much,he thinks theres not much to it. in a way it would be the same thing as getting married at the park. we just need to spice it up some. But now he wants to use it at a back up plan. i also dont like that the wedding would be in july in missouri and my dress would be so so hot on me. But for us to save spending a lot i wont mind. everythign else he likes or i like are between 1-6k for places for us to get married and have a party after. he wants to spend 200 dollars on a place for both. So i said again first place. Now im thinking the courthouse because im just tired of stressing over it. He keeps telling me we have a year but in ways we dont because is we have to book a palce now our day might be taken.If we do find something else i want a fall wedding and he doesnt mind.But i said i want to spend 2k or less for the whole wedding with our outfits to and rings.im just torn and dont know what to do. He wants a big wedding and so do i but we just dont want to spend a lot at all.
Post # 2
You’re having a pot-luck dinner for your wedding reception? Your guests have to bring their own food?
Post # 3
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Post # 4
if you insist on being a cheapskate then go to the courthouse, i am all about cutting costs but its absolutely tacky to have a potluck and take advantage of a family reunion like that.
Post # 5
I think after remembering your post about your fiancé making you sick you shouldn’t still be planning a wedding at all.
Post # 6
Though other posters have put it a little rudely, I’ve got to agree that potluck is a bad idea unless everyone’s on board with it.
But potluck is the least of your problems. I agree with gamerlover: . Let’s review your old thread: you’re 19, he’s 27 and not the father of your child. He calls you names, criticises your weight (and you’re only 120 lb) and he wants you to stop complaining and give him more sex. Really, honey, this man sounds like a complete douchebag and you shouldn’t be marrying him. (Which is what every single person said on the other thread).
Post # 7
I’m confused– if this reunion is a campground and everyone is camping… how is it going to be a potluck? everyone is going to bring hot dogs and chips?
Post # 8
I’m glad no one here is judgemental…
My best friend’s wedding was a mix of a pot-luck and bbq. We cooked appetizers and guests were asked, if they were willing, to make their favorite (small) dishes and fill out a recipe card for her wedding to pair with her (catered) bbq dinner. I had a blast at her wedding, and the food was amazing. I loved trying different foods. Recipe’s were shared and everyone really enjoyed it.
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
I went to a pot luck wedding in a forest once and it was cute. But I agree that it seems odd that people who are camping are also going to be cooking dishes. Where?
I will add my voice to those concerned about WHO you are marrying. If he criticizes you constantly… I wish I could shake some sense into you!!! There are NICE men out there! Don’t settle and sell yourself and your child short. Get independent, get a job, and raise your child yourself rather than settle for a dickhead.
Post # 10
I was considering a very small (less than 30 people) potluck-style wedding reception in the backyard, asking family members to make (or help us make) a dish of theirs that he or I love. His grandmother makes great twice-baked potatoes, my aunt makes fantastic spinach dip. We’d pay for the ingredients.<br /><br />I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it as long as you don’t DEMAND people bring something.<br /><br />It all depends on the situation, though. This doesn’t sound like a good situation to do something like that, and I don’t think you should be getting married at all, OP. Your guy sounds like a total shithead.
Post # 11
I really don’t think the potluck thing is the issue here !
OP why oh why are you still considering marrying this man. Please answer.
OP how can you seriously put your poor son through this scenario. Please answer.
Post # 12
sarals24: why are you being so rude? There’s no need to respond to the OP in all caps, calm down.
ETA: I think you mean the Enter key, not the Space bar. She’s using the space bar just fine.
Post # 13
Damiansmum10: Hun, reading through your previous thread, I think you should reconsider marrying this man, especially if he’s causing you to be physically sick, that’s a huge sign that something’s wrong.
Post # 14
Well I hope OP feels the support from this community. On top of jer questionable FI we have piled on and criticized her just like he does. Demanding she answer to us.
Anyway OP the problem with the camground is that unless there is a kitchen it’s going to be hard to make things or defrost things. I’ve been to a campground where they do have those. dont think having it the same time as your reunion is a horrific idea….lots of people post on here about how its their day NOT a family reunion and complaining so I dont see a big deal as long as your family is on board.
Have you talked to anyine outside of your family about some of your own concerns about your marriage? You may want to just to get a clearer picture of everything.
Post # 15
shazzshazshz: The space bar comment was based on the lack of space after every full stop and comma. Yes she was unnecessarily rude but she was correct.