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Ok i have been pregnant for three weeks, i just know. Even when i took the test i knew i had to wait for the doctors appointment. But i had all the symptoms, and i was at the point of almost vomiting now. So we havnt had sex for a while cause at first it aws hurting and it didnt feel comfortable at all. So i told him not all the way. He got upset and gave up on the sex all together and threw a temper tantrum. (What a baby) Geeezzzz. So yesterday i gave in and had sex with him, but it didnt hurt at all and it was the strangest thing i actually engoyed it. But as we were doing it, i got seriously faint. Iwas so dizzy i had to stop. I was like hun serious i am going to black out. He doesnt care and he doesnt understand. When i tell him that its like he doesnt hear me. So i went to the wash room and there was a faint colour orange i didnt think anything and had my nap cause i was really tired. Then after two hours i woke up in pain, i had abdominal pain and went to the bathroom. I was bleeding, but it was almost watery muky blood. So my husband didnt care and said just lay down, meanwhile i am crying and panicing cause i am doubled in two on the couch. So he left to work and just told me to rest. I told him i have to go to the hospital. And he said its all in my head. I was almost to black out.
So after that i got up to check the blood flow, and the pain went away and there was none. so i called the health nurse and she said for me to go to the doctors. Of course i called to see if i could get in and sure enough i couldnt till today. All night i cried while my husband didnt give a shit meanwhile the state i was in. I should of been takin care off. Now i woke up to him running out the door for work and i am saying what about me. Now i dont feel any movment in my body, and i think i had a miscarriage. I am so sad and pissed off at my husband. I texted him today saying why didnt you care for me. He said whatever ROSE. which is my mother that would give a shit. I want to call her so badly to tell her my feeling but i think it will only cause her to freak out on my husband. But i feel so hopeless. And now i have to go to the docs by my self today. To see if i am losing my baby or i am just implimenting bleeding.
That is so sad, I am so sorry for you. :( Your husband sounds like a selfish jerk. I am so sorry to say it like that, but I don't know how to sugar coat it. Do you have a close friend you could confide in right now? I think you need someone who loves you and will listen to you and give you lots of love and hugs. xoxo
AWW I am so sorry that you are going through this. You should wait on the results from the doc to confirm that you're pregnant. You really should find someone to talk to.
OK, first of all, try to relax a little bit. You will go see the doctor and figure out what is going on. There's nothing you can do right now except try to be calm about it and let the doctors help you and figure out what's going on. Plenty of people have sex when they're pregnant and they are 100% fine.
The problem I have with this is that your husband, for lack of a better term, acted like a complete a**hole. What you said he did and his reaction is really really disturbing to me. Once you go to the doctor and figure everything out, I think you need to tell your husband that his behavior was not OK and he simply cannot treat you that way. You deserve better than that. His actions literally disgust me.
((HUGS)) Sending good thoughts your way.
OK, deep breath. It is really common to have a little bleeding after sex in the early stages. Please don't freak out. Unless there was already something wrong with the pregnancy, sex doesn't cause miscarriages. Your doctor will tell you if you need to abstain, but usually it is just fine!
3 weeks is really early and your body is going through a ton of changes right now. There is cramping from uterine stretching and implantation bleeding... It's tough because you only have symptoms to go on. There's no baby movement that you can feel this early on!
There is, of course, the larger issue here of your husband disrespecting your wishes regarding sex. I think that is something that needs to be addressed right away!
I've never heard of sexual intercourse harming a fetus before. If you are pregnant, it's possible you're more emotional than usual and mis-interpreting your husband's reaction.
Have you been to the doctor to confirm your pregnancy yet? At three weeks you shouldn't be able to feel the baby moving yet, so not feeling anything moving shouldn't be a cause for concern.
Don't worry too much yet - wait to see what the doctor says.
The way your husband acted aside...
1) You haven't had a positive pregnancy test yet, so it's actually possible that you're NOT pregnant.
2) Because you were having pain/bleeding/discomfort/etc., you may have some other gyno issue unrelated to pregnancy.
Thanks ladies, yea the movement is cramping i was feeling. And who knows if its actually longer then three weeks. I am not certian to when i conceived. My boobs got larger and areola is all dark and large bumps. And it was akward to sleep on either side of my tummy. The right side felt he best.
As for my husband i am so pissed and cant imagine staying with him for life with this attitude. I dont know if i have made a bad choice to be with this guy. Only for the fact that he doesnt have sympathy for his wife when she is not well. Its like hes calling me a lier. And doesnt believe me.
I think that your husband was definitely out of line, but before you get too worked up over anything, I would get to a doctor and find out for sure if you're really pregnant. From there, you can start making decisions about what you're going to do next.
Have you actually taken a test? If you're still waiting to get into the doc, take a test. If it comes back positive, wait a day and take another one. If the second line comes back fainter then the first test, take another one, if that one is fainter still you might be having a very early miscarriage. I've had two early ones and that's how I found out. That all being said, sex will not cause a miscarriage, but it can cause a little bleeding, that's normal. If I were you I would find someone, a friend or family member to confide in. Early pregnancy can be very overwhelming, especially with a husband who is not being supportive or nurturing. I hope everything works out ok for you!
I'm glad you have a Dr's appointment because you really need to take a test and find out if you even ever were or still are. Have you been on any kind of BC recently? Are you just coming off it?
This is one reason why I'm glad I'm using the STM method for BC. When we do TTC I'll be able to see a temperature shift that shows I'm pregnant and then if I were to miscarry I would see another change in the temperature.
Sex does not cause miscarriages though. Just take a deep breath and try and relax. Your FI may be stressed, though that gives him no excuse to behave the way he is. If you are preggers, was it planned? How was he before the possible pregnancy and sex denial?
I am sorry you are upset. First, while the symptoms you are feeling may be a sign of pregnancy, they can also be a sign that you are getting your period. You would not feel thany movemebt at 3 weeks pregnant, so the lack of movement is not indicative of a problem even if you are pregnant. The only way to know if you are pregnant is to take a test. Rather than stressing yourself out, go to the drugstore and get a test. If it is positive, make an appointment with your doctor. During pregnancy, particularly in the first trimester, it is not uncommon to spot after sex. However, before you make yourself worry unnecessarily, take things one step at a time and take a pregnancy test.
I know that in the original post it is a little challenging to tell, but I read it as she had taken a test, "Even when I took the test I knew I had to wait for the doctors appointment"... which is generally true.
Most of us find out even before a missed period, but have to wait until 8-10 weeks for the first appointment.
Maybe I'm reading it incorrectly?
I re-read the post and yes, it looks like she took a test, but its unclear when she took it or what the result was. I am assuming it was negative, so perhaps it was too early to test? At home tests are generally very reliable when taken at the appropriate time, so maybe if she tested now she would have a better chance of getting an accurate result.
@DG-I think you read it right!
@VDB-I'm sorry you are going through this! Hopefully the docotr will be able to straighten everything out. Your husbands feelings towards sex really worry me, though. Have you tried having a serious talk with him?
sex does not cause miscarriage...there are only a few cases where you need to abstain from sex during pregnancy:
Further, any time you tell them you are bleeding during pregnancy, they will have you come in. However, in my pregnancy info from the dr, the one exception is that it is "normal" to have bleeding/abdominal cramps after the dr.
So, I recommend you read up some more on early pregnancy symptoms to ease your mind. Once you are calm, and assured the baby is OK, then I would talk to DH about how that made you feel. I do think it is important to calm down about the baby situation, first.
Your husband's actions are really disturbing. He shouldn't treat you like, especially in regards to sex and pregnancy!
@DG: I read it as she took a test but it was negative because it was too early to tell yet. I mean if she's assuming she got pregnant 3 weeks ago...and now she's bleeding...sounds like if she wasn't pregnant now would be the normal time to get a period. But in either case hopefully she'll come back and tell us after her doctor's visit today.
When you become pregnant your cervix becomes more vascular (More blood goes there) so its common to have a little spotting after sex or just in general. However spotting is very different from bleeding, spotting is more like when you are begining your period. It can range from pink to red to even brown (dried blood). What worries me is the abdominal pain. Did you state that do your doc? Usually if thats the case they send you to the ER. There are several things that can cause the bleeding so just calm yourself and wait for the doctor. Are you still faint now? If so take your blood pressure and if its unusually low I might make a trip to the ER. Keep in mind though that your BP usually decreases early in pregnancy
Sorry that was long but im in nursing school currently and want to work as a labor and delivery nurse!
I hope all is well and I will keep you in my thoughts.
After reading her other posts, she says that she has taken tests and they are negative. So I am thinking she thinks she is pregnant, but possibly is not, and now with the bleeding she is just having a period.
I do think that there are issues with her husband that need to be worked out. Are you already married? It says you are in your profile, but then it says your wedding date is Dec 7, 2010? If you aren't already married, maybe you need to think about these things becuase he doesn't sound like he very supportive of you at all.
Please keep us updated though. Best wishes!
i was reading your past post "I just know" and I think you have some misconceptions about the symptoms of pregnancy... You mentioned you peed 8 times in one day- frequent urination happens as the uterus expands and pushes against the bladder, but you would be far too early for that. Also, PMS symptoms are quite similar to those associated with pregnancy.
I read the other posts too. I think there might be some confusion about the pregnancy. The other posts indicate you took pregnancy tests which came back negative and you got your period? I wouldn't get too upset until a doctor assesses the situation and confirms that you were pregnant and that you suffered a miscarriage.
@ RosieGirl- According to one of the other posts, she got married in Mexico.
I actually needed to pee ALL the time right around when I found out I was pregnant... I heard it was something about the extra hormones that make you need to go. So, it is possible that could be a symptom... I guess we'll have to wait and see!
Actually, frequent urination is a common symptom of early pregnancy because your kidneys go into hyperdrive. I thought that the frequent urination wouldn't start until the baby got bigger but it happened pretty early on in my case.
However, I definitely think there is the possibility that something else might be in play here based on your posts. It's really really good that you are going to the dr. Let us know how things are going.
As for your husbands reaction... It sounds like he treated you really unfairly, and though you may not want your mom to think badly of him you need someones support. so I say call her!
Butrfly- Actually the glomerular filtration rate increases right away as your blood volume expands so you urinate the most at the very beginning of pregnancy because of physiologic changes and at the very end because of anatomical changes.
I think we need VDB to come back and help us out with some confusion...
If you tell him to stop and he does not that is rape. You need to get away from him because this will not be the only time. If he thinks he is entiteled to sex and this trumps anything you are feeling this is a very dangerous situation. Please think carefully and take care of yourself.
i think you are freaking out... sorry but first of all your not even sure u are pregnant, second sex never hurt the baby... i had sex the day before my csection... usually when you are pregnant the hormones are crazy and there are some days u will crave for sex more than usual... i do think you husband behave a little insensitive... if you were feeling so bad the best option was calling a family member or a friend to take u to the hospital...
i feel you because i was a little paranoid when i was pregnant but you need to calm down, some mens dont know how to react to different situation... breath, go to the doctor and when you calm down have a heart to heart with you husband...
good luck
Arachna - I dont think she ever said he FORCED her to do it, she consented and in her post said it was strange but she actually enjoyed it.
I didn't catch that the first time, but why is it strange that you enjoyed it? Boy, I'm getting more confused....
@KLP: I was thinking of that too. In my head, I thought she meant it was strange that she enjoyed it, because she had previously been having pain during intercourse...? Which was what lead me to thinking that it might be some sort of other gyno issue aside from pregnancy.
I think Arachna is referring to OP saying that she told her husband that she felt dizzy and was going to black out but he didn't listen/stop/whatever.
When you tell him to stop, and he doesn't, that is rape, even if he pretends not to hear you. That said, sex doesn't typically harm a pregnancy. In addition you said you felt no movement - but if you are only 3 weeks along, there is no way you could feel any movement anyway. It sounds like you might have a medical problem and you should see a doctor.
first big hugggggss, your hubby has no right to treat you like that. i wouldnt freak out yet, sex cannot harm a fetus, theres no way that would be possible. your not even sure if your pregnant. it could be your period coming but going to the doctor to get looked at is a good thing to do.
I wanted to wait to chime back in until after VDB had updated, but I really can't hold my tongue:
YES sex CAN hurt the baby and CAN cause a miscarriage. Just because it isn't common does not make it impossible. I'm on abstinence orders from my doc because of bleeding issues caused by sex.
Unless there is a problem or something going on, sex won't hurt a baby during pregnancy. For "normal" pregnancies, sex should not actually cause problems, but can further other problems. yes, there can be reasons to not have sex while you are pregnant (my Dr told me I couldn't at one point) but that was because of a different problem going on and sex would make it worse.
Any news from VDB?
Ok, what a day. Yes i was pregnant confirmed by my doctor i was rushed to the hospital this afternoon and now i am resting. In so much pain. I had a miscarriage, after my really bad cramps and i cried in pain all night last night. I knew something was wrong. I had all the symptoms of being pregnant. The positive test confirmed i was, but wanted to wait till i actually went to the docs to see forsure with her. But my schedualed appointment was the 26th. My doctor confirmed with me that i was pregnant for longer then what i thought i was. Henz the period i had on jan 22 lasted only for two days and it was so light and no cramps that it wasnt an actual period.
My husband got an emergnacy call from my doc to pick me up i am miscarriaging and he came, and drove me to the emerg aultersound. It was good. My doc asked to do a pap while i was bleeding i told her that i am bleeding too much and she confirmed yea way too much. I got a blood test and then rushed to the hospital. She wanted to make sure it wasnt stuck in my falopean tubes. I am still very dizzy and exhusted. I had a nice nap with my husband as soon as we got home. I am just not feeling good. Thank you ladies for all your support. I am just feeling a bit depressed and alone. So confused as well.
I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this. Have you had a talk with your husband about how he was treating you?
Hopefully your husband will take it more seriously from now on. He was probably just afraid that you were over-reacting and figured that it would work itself out soon enough. Guys can be weird like that.
Thank you for coming back and updating us. I am so sorry that you are going through this. We are all here for you, and I hope that your husband is as well.
I am so sorry! You seemed really excited in your previous post so I'm sure you are devestated. It is great that your husband is supporting you now.
i'm so sorry for your loss. take some time to take care of yourself, glad to hear the hubby is takign care of you!!
At three weeks pregnant, the embryo is still a ball of cells - so you wouldn't feel movement regardless. Some spotting can be normal, but definitely talk with your doctor! I was very faint/dizzy when I was 3-6 weeks pregnant - that is normal. Your body's hormone levels are crazy, and all your body chemistry is trying to adjust to the new pregnancy. Also, make sure you eat enough! Sex can't harm your baby - the uterus is extremely protected. The baby is inside of an incredibly muscular organ. Unless your husband is going up through the cervix (he isn't/doesn't under normal circumstances), the baby is fine. Your body is designed for this.
That said, your husband seems very disinterested and unsupportive. Some sort of therapy may be a good idea while you are going through this huge change - you should be there for one another 100% - and he especially should be taking care of you during this time!!
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