Post # 1
I’m getting married in December. My fiance’s sister is getting married in August. Which means, showers, dinners, parties. I’m not outgoing at all, I try my best but I’m just a quiet person overall, and I’m worried that I won’t have my fiance to ‘lean on’- as most of these functions are just women. We don’t have the same friends, so there’s absolutely no one I can hang out with at these parties. Can anyone give me some advice?
Post # 3
@loveknows: I’m a shy person too so I can totally relate. It’s tough with the parties for your FI’s sis, but for your parties, why not make them co-ed? Co-ed showers are definitely becoming more acceptable these days. Then who says you can’t have a co-ed batchelor/batchelorette party, as long as your FI doesn’t NEED his own night out with the boys. I think it would be totally fun!
PS: I think it’s a good sign that having your FI there makes you feel more comfortable! I’m this way too, but I think it’s the sign of a very close couple.
Post # 4
I would think of an arsanal of questions you can ask. People like to talk about themselves so ask them open ended questions and then as follow-up questions. Just be sure not to get too personal.
Do a little research about who will be there and what you know about them?
“You are in school, right? How do you like your major? Do you have any plans for graduation?”
“This party is so nice. How do you know “so and so”?
“I love your scarf (fill in the blank), mind if I ask where you got it?”
And when you are done, then excuse yourself for some cheese, drink, bathroom etc.
And when it gets to much go to the bathroom for a minute of quite time.
EDIT- I am confused… are you talking about the other persons parties and not your own, right?
Post # 5
Aw, I understand. I’m a shy/quiet person too, and my best friend just got married this past summer. We run in a COMPLETELY different circle of friends, and I didn’t know anyone really well or at all during all the festivities that went on. I just stayed with the people I kinda-sorta knew, and jumped into any conversation I could if I felt I had something to offer on whatever subject they were discussing. I think a previous poster’s suggestion of having a bunch of generic “getting to know you” questions in your head may also be helpful. She’s right – people DO love to talk about themselves. 😉 BAM – instant conversation!
If you drink and alcohol will be served at these occasions, you may also want to have a glass or two to loosen you up. 😉 That ALWAYS helps me! They don’t call it the social lubricant for nothin’!