Post # 1
This expereince has been the worse. I thought it would be exciting looking for dresses. It makes me depressed more then anything.
Ive been to many stores. I dont like anything.. The stuff i want i dont think will fit my body right. I had gastric bypass but im still plus size.All my hanging skin make me look un porportioned. Im so frusterated. I just want to wear a plastic bag as my wedding dress.
Its not fair that they dont carry bigger styles and i hate davids bridal and never find anything in alfred angelo. They always look at me and are like mmm we wont have much. (this is for every bridal store ive been too. )
Even though ive lost over 120 lbs i still feel huge and i feel i will never look amazing on my wedding day. I just dont know . Im so down 🙁
It just sucks. Im over it! I give up F it.
Post # 3
hmm i noticed another girl on this board wrote almost the same thing recently. We should protest lol. grr
Post # 4
I think you will find something. need to have that little bit of faith and start thinking positively!! have you ever thought about a custom dress? design it yourself!
Post # 5
When I was looking online I found that Maggie Sottero carries a lot of dresses plus size and they were beautiful. In fact two of my close friends both wore Maggie (one is about a 22 and the other a 22/24). I found my dress at Davids – I know I was shocked to (it’s a 20). The think that helped me with trying on dresses was the right undergarments – hello shapewear slip! I had gastric too so even though I’ve lost weight I’m still lumpy and bumpy in some areas I’d rather not be . My biggest worry are my arms – I always wear sleeves. Just recently – seriously recently like 6 months ago, I realized that there are a lot worse looking people than me wearing worse things so I said screw this and went sleeveless and I mean the whole shabang – tank tops, spaghetti tops, sun dresses, bathing suits and not a cover up in sight! So needless to say the dress I chose is a gorgeous sleeveless number and I’m estactic. Keep looking, don’t get frustrated or give up.
Post # 6
Hey Soon2beMrsWheeler! That other girl would be me! Let’s start a protest!
My first dress trial sucked! I was so depressed. But the ladies here have been fantastic and encouraging. They’re right, we just have to keep on looking and try different places.
I was over it too. But I’m gradually–maybe–hoping that if I start eating a little better and working out more, than I’ll feel better the next time. But it won’t be soon. I think I’m going to find places that have Maggie Sotero and Alfred Angelo and try some of those.
And if all else fails, I plan to wear a regular old dress of my liking & color–its my damn wedding! Who’s going to tell me no?? lol
TrixieStix–I HATE my arms. If I could cut off half of them myself, I would. And like you I ALWAYS wear sleeves, even in the summer!! I try to find lightweight, thin shrugs, or those v-neck boy tshirts that have the longers sleeves to the elbows. There’s always a strategy in place. That’s why I have no clue what I’m supposed to wear. Everything they have is sleeveless in bridalland. Yuck. And yes, i’ve tried going sleeveless, I feel really uncomfortable and self-conscious. Not only are my arms big and round, like chicken hammocks, but I also have the ‘ol grandma fat waddle underneath them–and I’m only 32! Sigh..
Post # 7
I love maggie sottero dresses. However i have a hard time finding a store that carrys a 14-16 or up. Maggie is what i want.
I have a small budget. But i am looking into finding someone to make my dress.
Post # 8
Did you go to PreVue in Grossmont Center (La Mesa area)? I *know* they have some Maggies in plus sizes.
Post # 9
I would recommend finding the dress you want, even if it’s a bit out of your budget, and then trying to find a sample or one on Once Wed. I bet you just haven’t found the right style that accentuates your best features yet. If you’re concerned about your arms, don’t rule out strapless dresses, but look at boleros!
I think finding the right consultant will help too. And if you’re really feeling bad about yourself, pamper yourself before you go to try on dresses – if you’re not feeling beautiful, you’re not going to like any of the dresses on yourself.
Post # 10
Have you tried many different styles of dresses? It seems counterintuitive, but a lot of times if you are bigger you will look better in a tighter mermaid dress. It holds everything in place more. I’m curvier and that’s what I wore. But I’m not plus size. I have seen a lot of plus size brides that look great in mermaid dresses.
I feel your pain with stores not having your size. It’s so hard to tell what a dress will look like and feel like on you when they can’t zip up the back or when you can’t even step into it. There must be some plus size stores out there somewhere!!! Maybe you could call Maggie Sottero and ask them if there are any stores in your area that have larger sample sizes, or if they would be able to ship larger sample sizes to the stores around you.
Post # 11
If you’re having this much trouble, it might be worth it to look for a seamstress! You can work with them to design a dress that’ll love and will be perfectly tailored to fit you. And if you can’t find one in your area, check out Etsy or post a request in Etsy Alchemy.
Post # 12
I hear you postponed the wedding cos I couldn’t find a dress……then started thinking seriously about wearing jeans or postponing again or possibly not showing up. Fingers crossed for you I truly hope you find the perfect dress one u can try on that fits like a dream and is sold to you by understanding considerate sales assistants who make you feel like a princess.
Post # 13
try going to a real bridal shop not one that only carries one designer and definately not DB… i tried my dress on in size 8 and had to order a 26 so themothaving it inyour size is notan excuse.. that size eight which was tight everywhere and of course didnt even come clos to closing still looked amaizing that’s how i knew it was the one… don’t be afraid to try things on even if they don’t fit… i would have never tried to squeeze into a dress that was that small but the drss consultant said “u like this? You’re gonna try it on” and i am so glad i did