Post # 1
Everyone keeps on reminding me, how are you going to get married if you don’t have the money. I mean the ceremony will be at a small church we go to and that’s going to be for free (but we will try to give a big donation) and we already paid for the hall. I think the rest are just small details. We are on a very tight budget… but I don’t want my wedding to look “cheap, or ghetto”. Sigh. I’m so worried. I mean the wedding will go on weather or not we have the money for it. I mean my Fiance and I love each other tremendously and we are even going through marriage classes through our church for like over 6 months. We are more than prepared for our wedding. I’m just SOOO worried.
Any of you other bees getting asked, how are you guys going to get married if you don’t have any money?
Post # 3
I feel your pain. However it’s not so much with the wedding itself. It’s after the wedding. We most likely wont have the money for a house so we are going to prob have to rent until we can afford a home.
Post # 4
Yes, all the time! The short answer is that we’re very lucky to have parents who are willing to contribute to our funds – and while I’m very grateful, all the parents have specific things they “need.” So while my wedding would have been about $10,000 if it was up to me, they bumped it into the $30,000 range with all the extra guests, dinner preferences, favor preferences, etc.
Anyway, my point being…. I think that a lot of DIY and thrifty options don’t come across as cheap at all. In fact, it’s often the opposite. Those little touches make the wedding you. And with the abundance of crafting resources and blogs out there, I don’t think it’s hard to put more sweat than money into your wedding and have a great result.
Post # 5
Luckily I’m not worried about where we are going to live after we get married. We are going to live in an apartment. If push comes to shove we will live in the studio apartment that Fiance lives in now. I’m not worried about that. It’s just people make me worried and a little bit ashamed. I mean when I first announced we were getting married everyone was like, why don’t you have it in your back yard? or Are you going to have a really small wedding? or Are you sure you’ll be able to afford your wedding.. blah blah blah I mean why can someone just say something encouraging.
Post # 6
Thanks for the encouragement. My mom is willing to pay for a caterer, but that’s pretty much all she can afford and my dad is laid off, they are both divorced. So Fiance and I are paying for like 90% of the wedding and we don’t make much money.
Post # 7
You know, people always assume nowadays that you have to spend tens of thousands of dollars to have a nice wedding. But there are Bees on here (and brides on OffBeat Bride if you want inspiration) who have gorgeous weddings at beautiful venues for a very reasonable amount. If someone where to ask me how I was going to have a wedding because I might not have enough money I’d be quite offended.
Basically, don’t let it get to you. Spend the money on areas that are important to you (from your original post the venue sounds like the most important! :)) and just let the rest of it roll off your back – nobody is going to think your wedding is “cheap” or “tacky” and if they do, they’re not worth bothering about. Big hugs.
Post # 8
You don’t have to spend a ton to have a fabulous wedding! A friend of mine got married last year for relatively cheap (a little less than $5000, including dress). As long as you are willing and have help to do a lot of DIY projects, it’s not a problem. And it’s fun!
Post # 9
Smiles are the best decoration a wedding can have. Truly. You guys are excited about it, you have a place, you have food. The rest will come together.
Post # 10
I have to say this one..fiftyflowers! Check out that site! Great wholesale flowers (I’m ordering the garden roses there for my reception table decor) for a song. Check out some of the real brides and their real pics from their wedding days by looking on their site.
You can diy almost all of it and save a ton!
We’re paying for our own wedding,except for the rehearsal dinner and his parents are picking that up.
Post # 11
Who are these comments coming from? If it’s your parents or close friends, maybe they’re just worried about you getting into debt over the wedding? Weddings tend to be expensive (not all, but many), and most people have a strong perception of wedding costs being in the $20K-$30K range. Sure, it’s possible to do a gorgeous event on a tight budget, but I bet your family and friends don’t read Offbeat Bride or Weddingbee, so they might not understand how you could possibly spend only $5-10K.
If you get these comments from acquaintances, I would not be happy with that, because your financial situation is not their business.
Finally, I think you should be realistic about the costs and make sure you know exactly what you can afford. For us, the venue and food is only 50% of the total, and I think this is pretty common. Those small details can add up! We’re DIYing flowers and stationery, and I got a very cheap dress, but everything still adds up quickly. So get a detailed budget and figure out exactly what you can afford.
Post # 12
Yes I agree with the ladies..weddings don’t have to be super expensive! There are soo many DIY ideas out there that can really save you a ton a money! You just do what you can. Who cares what other people think! It’s your day and as long as you think your wedding is great thats all that matters! You will be fine 🙂
Post # 13
Our budget is about 5,000… and 99% of that is paying for the caterer/hall for our 250 person wedding. We picked a place where you can BYOB so we’re going to delaware to get our booze w/o sales tax. Shhhh don’t tell anyone but I bought my wedding band on ebay for 20$ you would never know! It looks gorgeous. My Mother-In-Law offered to pay for the DJ and Father-In-Law offered to pay for a cottage in St.John for our honeymoon. Our save the dates and invitations were only .29 cents a peice so we’re saving a lot of money by just being thrifty. Growing our own flowers for DYI bouquets and centerpeices. Ebay is great I bought netting to make a birdcage veil. People keep asking how we’re going to afford it… but they don’t have to know all the shortcuts and bargains! I bought my dress on the sale rack at Davids… It actually makes me feel A LOT better knowing that we’re not spending a whole ton of money. We just bought a house, hubby’s going to school, I have student loans… I just can’t imagine spending 10K+ on something. Our budget is small, our wedding is huge and it’ll work out fantastic!
Post # 14
i think that it is awful that ppl are saying those things to you. try not to let it get to you 😀
Just do the best you can. Make sure you stay within your budget and you will be fine. After talking with you i already know some areas where you will be saving major $s! and that is something to celebrate!
Post # 15
ALSO, it is pretty amazing that you are paying for the majority of your wedding at such a young age! most ppl are fortunate to have parents that fork out the dough. I am with you…we are one of the unlucky few who dont 😀
Especially if you are both still getting through school. I know when we were both in school we were BROKE. but if we would have been ready we could have made a wedding happen 😀
But since we have graduated (10months) we have saved enough money for a 20% down payment on a house and a very budgetted wedding!so look positive toward the future, you both graduate and start making the big bucks and you will be fine 😀
You can do it 😀
Post # 16
I’m all for weddings being from the heart. Seriously this is a great place for finding out money saving tips.
You can have a gorgeous invitation suite and have it your way! You don’t have to go and use a kit from a store, check out my stationer on etsy! She’s amazing. Twoyellowshoes! She is designing a whole invitations suite for me and even the enclosures and some other fun things too (menu template, monogram template) and I’m either printing the papers myself or outsourcing them. Getting my own pocketfold invite and putting them in!
It’s going to only LOOK luxe..but it will be far below the budget I thought I’d spend on invites which would be custom.
Check over on etsy and do check out my stationer. She’s so sweet and my std’s (working on getting them out very soon) ROCK! Most people spend alot on stationery, and I’m going to have everything I want for less than 300 and that includes std’s, invites, and some fun printed pieces and a custom monogram and even custom desgined printable envelopes to give it that little “pop” of color that will make it different!
There are a million ways to cut money from the wedding without cutting style. From outsourcing some of my wedding florals, to having a friendor create some gorgeous moss ball pomanders for the pews at the wedding, to having semi-homemade fab invites and std’s.
Get creative and have fun and def quit sweating it! You got your gals here who got your back. ASK lots of questions here about every little step and how did others get most bang for buck.