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I like it.  I wouldnt care what people thought.

I kind of feel the same way too.  We have been living together for 2 years. I don't really need anything.

I am, of course, going to register for a few things. But thats it.  I also am doing a honeymoon registry.

well I think it makes a difference because you explained your situation. And because you put this at the bottom:  "Nevertheless, as I have said before, when it comes to the wedding... your presence is our present. :)"

Why don't you just register at Lowes/Home Depot for the things you need for your kitchen remodel? I'm sure many people will still give you money, but then you won't have to risk offending more old fashioned guests. 

I personally wouldn't write that on my wedding website (frankly, I don't even have a registry tab), but, if you don't think your family/friends will be offended, more power to you!

If you have been telling people that their "presence is [your] present," can't you just leave it at that? If people really want to give you something -- or want to give you money -- then it's their choice.

I just don't know that your wedding website is the place for such a rant.

@Ms Bookworm:  I just think it's a weird disconnect to say "no, we just want you to come" while at the same time writing "bring us cash, though, or we can't remodel!"

I think word of mouth -- in possibly a more subtle way -- would be what I would do in your shoes. Or I would set up a registry at Home Depot or the like, as some other people mentioned above.

ETA: I've been living with my husband for a few years now, and we also live in a major city in a smallish apartment. We both lived alone for 5-6 years before moving in together as well. So it's not that I don't understand the desire for cash rather than things. I just don't think that the above text on a wedding website is the best way to go about it. Minimally, I'd take out the ranting aspect. Just my opinion!

Hey I'm all for this! I never understood the uproar that comes into play when a couple wants money instead of gifts. In the end, the gifts are meant to help you and your new partner in the next stage of life/house set-up/whatever. If money is requested, I'd have no problem gifting it. Saves me a trip to the store. =)

@crayfish:  Did you ever think that the people who give money are offended by the demands for money because we all already KNOW people would like money and so "reminding" people, even in a "polite" way just comes off as condescending and/or greedy?

A small line at the end of a 253 word, 5 paragraph request for cash hardly makes me feel that my presence is actually what you would like.

@les105:  I don't get why there has to be a negative connotation to the request. I see no difference between registering for a list of gifts at a department store or asking for the cash that would have been spent on the gift. The couple is just being honest. I find it a bit refreshing.

Of course, everyone is entitled to their opinion.

@Olive12:  Because, like I said, everyone wants money. You don't have to tell people you want money. It's different than a coffee pot, because there are different kinds of coffee pot, and people want to know which one you'd like if they'd like to buy you a coffee pot. There aren't different kinds of money.

Also, I didn't put any registry info on my webpage or on invites. I would only give that out if people wanted to buy me a gift and asked me what I want. If people want to give you money, they'll give you money. I'm not telling my guests "I'd like a physical gift, and I'd like it from this registry" the same way I wouldn't want people telling me "I don't want a physical gift, give me money". KWIM?

@kelly105:  Like I said, if your guests won't be offended, more power to you! In my original post, I simply said I wouldn't, which is just a personal opinion. And the post you're referencing was in response to why people would be offended by a request for money but then still give money. I was just answering the question.

Do what you want, I'm not hating. I essentially said "do whatever you want as long as it won't offend your guests", and my other posts are answers to questions directed at me. Sorry if you're offended that my opinions don't mesh with yours.

I'd roll my eyes if I saw this on the registry tab.  Because it is a dissertation.  You're also kind of dissing people who believe in registries.  If you really must do this, keep it short.

This part works fine -

H and I have had the dream of remodeling our kitchen for 3 years now. .

This summer (after the wedding) we are going to take on the kitchen remodel...  assuming we have enough funds!  So, a monetary gift would be most helpful at this time. 

I liked until you wrote:

At first we didn't want to spend the money because the economy was so bad and we weren't sure if our jobs were safe.  Then we LOST our jobs and we knew the remodel had to be put on the back burner until we felt secure again.  Then we got engaged and were quickly preoccupied with wedding planning.

This summer (after the wedding) we are going to take on the kitchen remodel...  assuming we have enough funds!  So, a monetary gift would be most helpful at this time. 

I would replace it with "this summer (after the wedding) we are going to take on that kitchen remodel.  To that end, we have registered at Home Depot (and of course a monetary gift would be helfpul too).

The end.

@kelly105: Is that really necessary?