- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
My fiance has a group of friends, most of which have wives, girlfriends, etc, that we hang out with a lot. I’d call some of them “my friends” and some of them are more recent relationships and I don’t know the women well. I invited “my friends” to my bridal shower, but I didn’t invite the others because I really felt like it might be an awkward situation to ask someone I don’t know to the bridal shower. However, that was only 2 of the women in that group were invited. The others were not. One girl in particular, let’s call her C, is a lot younger than everyone else in the group. She is still in college (21), while the most of the group ranges from 24-32. She is one of the newer girlfriends, and was not invited. She apparently was so mad that she told enough people that word got back to me.
I wasn’t even facebook friends with C yet, and didn’t have a phone number, so I friended her and sent her a message apologizing profusely, explaining that I had no idea she would have wanted to attend the shower and I would have gladly invited her but I didn’t want her to feel funny about it (since you know, we’ve NEVER ACTUALLY HAD A CONVERSATION!!!) and said we’d love to see you at the bachelorette party if she would like to attend that. However, when it came time for the bachelorette party I heard from my fiance (who heard from C’s boyfriend) that she wasn’t coming because of the way she was invited, like she wasn’t wanted.
I’m just really hurt because I’m trying to do the right thing and every time I apparently make C mad. I’m not the people pleasing type, but I also don’t like drama. And C is causing unnecssary drama. What do I do? The wedding is this weekend and I just want to scream at this girl instead of enjoying my day.