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So I'm sick in bed atm with Norovirus with my darling OH gave me before heading back home (we're in a LDR) and as he has it too we're just hanging out on FB and chatting, about wedding venues and colours, music, menus etc!! Now when we first started planning I was cool with doing it in this order, we are about so much more than jewellry and I've loved having the time to get my head around marrying him without the world and his dog sticking their nose in my business! I've heard this week that I got given a place on a ueber competitive teacher training course in the city where he works, and we've set a blimmin date, but still no ring!! Our families and closest friends know, and I'm just getting a bit fed up now- I've got a fairly short potential engagement period as it is, and I want to go dress shopping and start booking stuff but feel like an idiot without a ring on my finger! That said, I have commitment from him, and don't want to pressure him so much that when he proposes it feels like I made him do it!

Sorry ladies, that was long! Any advice?

Sar x

I agree 100%. Your mistake was the order. Man buys ring,mans asks girl. Girl starts wedding planning,shopping for dresses etc. I'm sure you're kinda realizing that now. Hope I'm not offending. Did you both set the date or are you calling all the shots?From my experience it has to be all the GUY'S idea. If you start calling the shots most men seem to dig their heals in so to speak and the process slowly comes to a road block usually ending up with the girl anticipating and gettting fustrated. I wouldn't go dress shopping or make any further plans unless I had the real deal on my finger! I'm also a waiting bee and I feel your pain!

Oh believe me it's his idea- we were intially aiming for July 2011 but he suggested we brought it forward. We're getting married on a fairly low budget, so the places we're looking at booking are unlikely to book up, and we're getting married in my dad's church so again not too much pressure. I wouldn't dream of going shopping for stuff without a ring, and I can theoretically do it all in the summer as I'm graduating and waiting for the new course to start so have a LOT of diy time, I think I just want to share how excited I am with everyone and would rather do that the conventional way of getting engaged, rather than tell people our back-to-front approach in dribs and drabs. COmplicating factor no1 is that OH's parents NEVER got engaged (yeah, you read that right) so his commitment to getting married isn't the issue here, just him realising there can be a point to getting engaged! lol.

Other Half :-) I think its more of a UK forum term!