Impatient!

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
Member
87 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

 

acc092289:  First of all, welcome 🙂 Second, I am in the same boat as you. My boyfriend of almost three and a half years has hinted at a proposal and has even gone as far as talking to my parents and his family. He had originally made plans to propose before my birthday last year (in November) and now we are in May and I am as impatient as ever. I try not to drive hime insane with a million questions and I genuinely want this to be his time and I don’t want to make him feel pressured, but it’s really hard not to get irritated. I can relate to getting annoyed at the silliest things, I do too. I just can’t help but wonder what is taking so long and why it hasn’t happened yet.

Now, with that being said. I think we both have to take a deep breath and try to keep our minds occupied with other things. I know it is much easier said than done, but just think, when he finally pops the question it will be perfect and all the nagging and irritation will just disappear.

By the way, I can’t wait to hear all about the proposal. Best of luck to you 🙂

Post # 4
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87 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

 

acc092289:  Without sounding mean, you make me feel better because I don’t feel so crazy! Haha. I think once the seed of a proposal and an engagement has been planted in a girl truly in love there is no getting rid of it. I obssess daily over the engagement, we have looked at rings several times. I don’t think he has purchased a ring yet 🙁 but he mentioned recently that it will happen before July. It seems like an eternity from now. He just keeps telling me to be patient because he wants everything to be perfect. On one hand I think that is very sweet, but on the other hand I wouldn’t care if he popped the question with an onion ring. I have found these boards very helpful, everyone is so supportive and gives great advice. I am sure we will get through the waiting. 🙂

Post # 6
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8 posts
Newbee

acc092289:  read your post I can familiarise with exactly what you are going through. I feel exactly the same. It’s driving me crazy. Exactly like what you said above being in PJ’s and at home you’d be happy but my man too keeps saying he wants it to be perfect but the daily wait is agonising. one of my best friends who went through an impatient wait with her guy & was struggling majorly – she ŵas literally at breaking point when it came & it was the most amazing surprise literally unexpected during what she thought was just going to be a casual lunch. My friend said what kept her going was actually doing a bit of research & wedding planning before she got the ring because she was confident it was coming so she did lots of wedding research & said by the time the ring came she had done 40% of her wedding research. Although I’d said I just feel weird doing that without a ring yet- so instead I have just continued going crazy waiting for the ring…..but that was the advice she gave me 

Post # 8
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222 posts
Helper bee

acc092289:  Welcome to the bee!!! I’ve always found strength in numbers. As a waiting bee myself, I find that hearing/reading stories of women in similar positions make me feel better and knowing that I’m not the only one that finds waiting impossible at times makes me feel a little less crazy.  I’m in a similar position. I’ve been with my bf for 6 years! After graduating, starting our careers and coming home from a deployment, I thought for sure he’d propose! Wrong. I was feeling bummed, thinking it’d never happen. But my dad let slip that he asked for permission a few months ago and I recently found out (I know, I know I shouldn’t pry for info.) that he designed the ring and that it’s almost done! I was floored! And super excited! And nervous and most of all, impatient! I have a feeling he may be proposing this month or next, which will be our anniverary. The anticipation is killing me! I know this waiting is difficult, but I guess we just have to hang in there…because what else can we do? Until then, I get my wedding related fix from wedding bee and I have secretly started a stash of bridal magazines (what’s a girl to do?). Anyway, I hope you don’t have to wait much longer. I will certainly keep my eyes peeled for your proposal story!

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 7 months ago by  soon2bhitched.
Post # 10
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339 posts
Helper bee

 

acc092289:  Welcome to the bee and Congratulations that your proposal is in sight! That email that you stumbled on can do one of 2 things, it can calm you because you know its on the way or it can send your anxiety into overload because you know its on the way and you want it now!!! I’ve read many stories on the bee of SOs having the ring and not proposing… one of my gfs just got engaged 2 weeks ago and her guy had the ring for 2 years, just sitting in his parents house. If you thought not knowing and waiting was bad, just wait and see how ansy you will become now.

I’ve been with my guy for 2 1/2 years. I’ve been officially waiting since October of last year and I dont expect a proposal until August. August may come and go and I may be still unengaged (is that a word?? lol) but i dont sweat it nearly as much as i did in the begining when we talked about a timeline and started planning because, well frankly I’m doing this whole soul searching bit and trying to decide if I am ready to be married and be someone’s wife and soon someone’s mom while not trying to lose myself and stay on track in my career. I cant believe its May already and August is only 3 months away… I could remember going God, 10 months?? That’s how long I gotta wait? but I switched gears and started thinking about a life of love and happiness and making our marraige the best union it could be and suddenly the proposal and the wedding day didnt seem so important after all.*

Im sure it will be here sooner than you think, and then the rest of your life can begin!!

 

*Disclaimer: who am i kidding… im still excited about the proposal and the wedding and im sure i will be a bridezilla at some point (but i dont wanna be a wifezilla or a momzilla)

Post # 12
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8 posts
Newbee

acc092289:  You met with a wedding planner – ha love it! So I’m thinking the advice of doing as much wedding research while going through the wait might be the key in keeping us busy ie somewhere to put our wedding excitement/energy….Yay for the new development! Keep us posted 🙂

Post # 13
Member
339 posts
Helper bee

 

acc092289:  Dont get me wrong, I love my SO, and I knew I wanted to marry him from the first time I said I love you. Its less of if I want to be married and more of the ready/preparedness. Much like you I have degrees, a career, and I’m exactly where I said I would be over a decade ago. I guess what I was trying to convey is that I stopped focusing so much on the fantasy and romance of being engaged and getting married, and have now diverted my attention to understanding what truly makes a marriage work because I plan to mate for life!

That aside, I hope your proposal comes soon! I’ll be looking out for it!

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