- 6 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
Being new to this site but not to being a waiting bee, it is so nice to find a community of women that are experiencing the same waiting game. I have struggled with this waiting game and wanted to share my recent story.
My SO and I have been talking about marriage seriously since this March. In September, he told me he had the engagement planned out already and that it would happen sooner than i thought. My soon was before the end of the year, but I think his soon was a little different….
He showed me a ring he liked over a year ago, but has been browsing for rings a lot over the last few months. The week before Thanksgiving he insisted that i look at two specific rings he picked out so he knew what i would want. We ended up picking out a beautiful Vera Wang diamond ring!!! Of course, this made me think about getting engaged. I thought for sure that he would propose that weekend because we were going out of town.
I was so anxious the whole week before vacation, but nothing happened. I wanted so badly to figure everything out. During our vacation we had a wonderful time. One night as we sat in the hot tub, i asked if he found the ring he was looking for. He said that he knew what he would get, so i teasingly pressed forward and tried to at least get a time line. Well, all he will give me is “several months”, but according to him it could be as little as two, but that it will happen in 2012 and he doesn’t have have an exact date yet. At that point, I was convinced that his definition of planned was he meant to do it after he got his tax return, which makes sense.
I have come to the conclusion that I am probably not going to figure it out and that he likes to play with mind because it is so important to him that it be a total surprise. So taking my friends advice and understanding the importance of the surprise for him, i have decided to rid myself of being anxious and to let him have this moment. I know without a doubt that we will be married and that he will propose soon, even if its still “several” (lol) months away. At least i have a committment from him that he is going to propose.
Sure, i will wonder about it from time to time until it happens and i will want to go ahead and plan everything out for the wedding, but it is so exhausting trying to figure out when, how, and where it will happen. It has consumed my mind off and on again for a while and I have had to make the decision to let it go….easier said than done of course, but i feel better already. It could happen next year or he could totally catch me off guard and do it next week…who knows, but i know when it happens it will be a very happy and wonderful surprise!!! Good luck waiting to us all!!! 🙂