Post # 1
So, I had posted in the relationship board about my situation. Not really necessary prior info; however, since I posted, I had a bit if a discussion with my SO. I basically told him I just need to KNOW whether I am “the one” for him. I have really awful self confidence and although I know her treats me like it, I needed to hear those words so I could feel less anxious. He said yes- “us” is what he wants (I knew that…).
So anyways, I really can’t say why a proposal and marriage is so important for me, but it is. I know many of you will get it. I am so happy with what I have… And would be happy spending the rest of my life with him, but I really want the ring and marriage. No fancy rock, no fancy wedding… Just that ring on my finger so people know I’m his and his last name. I am so impatient about this part and I just can’t explain it. If he knows he wants to be with me…. Why not start our forever now?!
what makes it hard is watching others who have been together less time getting engaged. My cousin just got engaged and I am SO happy for her and excited… But it really brings up my self confidence issues… What’s wrong with me? What can I do to make him want to put a ring on it? (I’m not sure if anyone else had had this feeling or if it just me being ridiculous like usual!)
I’m trying to be patient… He knows where I stand and I can’t rush him. I’m thinking it will happen toward the end of the next 6 months. I’m just going to shut my mouth until then and go from there!
Post # 2
I think most of us have been There before! Its so hard to be patient! For me, its even harder now that I know that the ring is in the house. I was on vacation with my mom this past week, and any guy I saw, i wanted them to look and know I was taken, and I want him to want everyone to know I’m taken. I know I am taken and I would never act as if I wasn’t taken, but i really want everyone else to know it. The waiting is hard. Try to keep busy, lean on all of us here for support. Hopefully your waiting will end soon!
Post # 3
Dreaming42: I know exactly how you feel about others close to you getting engaged. My BFF got engaged a few months ago and has been dating her FI for much less time than me and my SO.
I keep alternating between wanting to break down and have a cry fit and wanting to cuss my BF out for making me wait. I am not opposed to proposing to him if it came down to it but I want to experience the traditional proposal as a girl! My bday is next week and I can’t help but feel down already bc I just know he’s not going to propose this year. I don’t want to feel this way but I do. It sucks
Post # 4
GIRLLL, can I get an AMEN? haha. I feel exactly the same way. Being patient sucks, especially because I know in our situation the only thing we’re waiting for is money for the ring. GAH.
Post # 5
We aren’t waiting on money. I don’t know what it is. But I can’t help feeling that there’s something wrong with me. I find myself cooking more elaborate meals, cleaning the house more, etc. trying to show him that I’m wife material… but it seems like he’s not even thinking about proposing 🙁
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2016 - Equestrian Estate
Dreaming42: Maybe he is thinking about proposing but he wants to throw you off?? And either way you also have to think about you, keep yourslef happy!! Have you read Mr. Bees approach to getting your guy to propose?? Its great!
Ive been with my SO for over 6 years now… still waiting but I do know now that it’ll happen in the next month (hopefully), so that helps me, but before I knew that being on the waiting boards helped me get through. And finding something else to focus on is so important.
The fact that you two are happy and in love is all that matters, its not a race, just b/c other ppl are getting married sooner doesnt mean that they are more in love 😉
Post # 7
I am happy with our relationship and where we’re at… I so wish I could just be happy with that. But I feel like at this point in my life (age, have my career, no loans, etc.) -I- am finding it important that marriage be on the horizon, and there’s also a lot of external pressure. I hate introducing my “boyfriend”… I feel like we are so past that. And I really, really hate people asking when it is going to happen. I wish I knew. I really don’t think he’s trying to throw me off. I know him so well, and there is no ring in my immediate future. He is very financially responsible and I know exactly where his money has been going.
We got back from a trip abroad to visit his family and friends in the UK mid July… prior to leaving everyone told me he was going to propose (it was also my birthday while we were over there). I KNEW he wasn’t because he’d made some other large purchases for himself… but I still couldn’t help but home and feel a little disappointed when nothing happened (which is just silly). Then coming home to people asking if it happened was hard. I just wish I knew what is wrong with me… why am I not marriage material? Why isn’t it something he wants right now? It’s making me feel so insecure.
Post # 8
I feel the same way you feel! You see people all the time that have been together less time than you and you wonder “What are they doing that I’m not Doing?” So frustrating!!! also wondering why you’re always a step ahead! I feel you!!!