Post # 1
So My FI refuses to do a pro engagement session. He doesn’t think they are important and thinks we can just do the self timer on the camera- without getting dressed up or anything. He actually had us do the self timer thing on our last camping trip (in our grubby clothes and not showered for two days). He thought that could count as our E-session (one photo that we previewed on the 3″ camera screen.
The problem is that both of us are very un-photogenic. I really want to get a pro who can get some good photos of us together. I do not have one single decent photo of the two of us in the 4 years we have been together! Seriously, not one! Either he is doing something silly, or I just look terrible!
I really want to look back one day and have some good pictures of us… at least in some of the bad photos, we are doing something fun, and it’s the memory that I can look back on. I have one photo of us together in a frame, and when people come over, they ask why I chose that one, as it’s not a good picture, but it is honestly the best we have, and it was from our first vacation.
I don’t know if this is an issue worth pressing him on, or should I just be satisfied that we will have nice wedding photos and carry on?
Post # 3
@metalbride: So i had the exact same problem. FI thought epics were silly, unnecessary, he wasn’t interested in “frolicking through the woods wearing khakis” etc. and I really wanted them bc neither one of us is capable of taking a good photo. Seriously, in the 7 years we’ve been dating, I think I have all of 3. If you really want them, I’d just explain to your FI how much it means to you and that you’d really appreciate if he’d play along for 2 hours, even offer to pay for it if that’s the issue. Tell him you would really like to include them in the guest book or on your save the dates.
Post # 4
Perhaps indulge him and then when he sees that they don’t turn out as expected he’ll change his mind?
Although, there was one bee who had timer and tripod pics that were positively stunning. Better than a lot of pro jobs. Don’t remember which bee :o( Only that she had a parasol in one and it was quite unforgettable.
Post # 5
A good photographer will make you feel comfortable in front of the camera, ours did. I love, love our engagement photos because we looked so comfortable which we usually are not. I say pro e-session all the way!
Post # 6
You certainly don’t HAVE to get engagement pictures, but if you don’t have a lot of nice pics of the two of you, it’s definitely worth looking into. My FI had a hard time getting excited about our E-session, but once we there, he started to have fun. I don’t think either of us is particularly photogenic, but I really like some of the pics we ended up with (they are here, if you’re curious) and it allowed us to get more comfortable with our photographer. I think you should keep pestering your FI about it!
Post # 7
We just did our E-Photos last month and I am super glad we did. I learned a lot about what looks good and what doesn’t for us and we became much more familiar with our wedding photographer. I would check with your photographer and see if they are included in your package. If they are then you FI shouldn’t have any issue as there isn’t an “added” expense.
Just telling my FI that I wanted photos of us together didn’t seem to sink in. Can you rationalize your FI the purpose of E-Photos without the emotional ties to it (practice for wedding, no extra cost, familiarize you with the photographer etc)? That is what my FI needed to understand and once he did he was onboard.
Post # 8
@metalbride:I made it clear to my hubby that it was very important to me and we sometimes have to make sacrafices for one another. Come the photo shoot, not only did he not hate it–he had fun! And the pictures came out FANTASTIC.
Talk to him about doing them–it obviously matters a lot to you.
Do your research though, make sure you find someone you really like *all* their photos in their portfolio.
Post # 9
We had a free pre-engagement shoot and I’m fully intending on doing a “Marriage” Shoot after we get married. I like you don’t have a whole lot of pictures of us and really want some, I’m really happy with how our pre-engagement shoot went so I look forward to our Marriage shoot in a year or so.
You should definitely get him to consider it.
Post # 10
I would say tell him how important it is to you and why, and then look into the photographer you want for your wedding and see if they will do an engagement shoot for you as well, alot of photographers use this as a tatic to get to know you and feel you out and see what you want and how to work with you on the big day 😀 Let him know that as well…and you tell him you want to do engagement photos that represent the two of you…maybe running barefoot in a field of grass insnt your thing so find something that is!! Whether its video games, hunting, bowling, swimming, camping, crafting…most photog’s are open and will to do new things!! Best of luck!! 😀