- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2015
Alrighty, here goes my first post on Weddingbee! I apologize, its a long one.
My SO and I are coming up on three years of dating and we are headed for an engagement sooner than later…BUT, there are some.. hurdles I’ll call them.
#1 – SO thinks that weddings are a cash grab and a day that doesnt need to happen, he thinks that he can be just as commited to me without having a piece of paper and a day where we spend thousands of dollars.. Over time I have come to realize that he has some valid points, but at the end of the day I still want to be married and have a wedding. He has realized that its a non negotiable thing for me and says he will make and do it for me
# 2 & 3-He isnt exactly the best when it comes to his finances – specifically saving. This has been a concern for me as I am a very practical person and would prefer that he not go in to debt to buy a ring (as I can see most people agree with by looking at previous posts)
He is terrible at secrets so he has been dropping hints for awhile now that this month he gets a third paycheck and he will be stashing that aside to go towards my future ring. We are now in the month and he has been sick and going to lose two days of pay (which is totally ok!), but hehe is now stressed about the amount being lower than he anticipated… He also has said that we could be using the money to go towards house items that we could use if we didnt have to do this (and that kills me)
Last night I actually offered to go into one of my savings acconts so that I could contribute to the ring. He shot that idea down due to a pride issue…
All in all I am feeling very emotional about it all and I dont know if I am right to feel upset about how he makes me feel like I am brainwashed by society into wanting a wedding and an engagement ring..
Am I crazy????