(Closed) impossible thoughts of a waiting bee (rant)

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I am right with ya!!  Hang in there!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

You can’t bring up marriage? Like you can’t even talk about it?

 

That doesn’t seem right… it’s something that SHOULD be discussed. I’m waiting, but he and I had discussed this from the beginning. It was important to me that he want marriage someday. It was important to me to know that “someday” wasn’t “10 years from now.”

 

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with bringing up marriage. If he’s not ready for it, that’s something he can say…

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Exactly!

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Well put! My feelings exactly. Argh!!

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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I did the same.  I brought it up a lot.  When he finally proposed, I felt very little. I kind of ruined it by being so frustrated by the waiting.  I don’t think there is really any way to avoid that, but I just hope you feel differently when he does propose!

Post # 10
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Newbee

I was so grateful to read your post batsygirl, thanks so much for sharing. I really feel like I could rant too about having to wait. You weren’t wrong when you were saying how fustrating it is when you know he isn’t stringing you along but he hasn’t asked… it’s soooo fustrating!

One of my friends has just got engaged to her bloke after a year and I just want to cry! I’ve been with my guy for 5 years, living together for 4 and he still hasn’t asked. He talks about our future, sure, but there is nothing set in stone.

I asked him about two years ago (late on a night out) when he was planning to ask me and he said in Feburary I should be very happy. (that was October). Then… you’ve guessed it, Feb rolls around and passes and he still hasn’t asked. So.. I try wait and see. Several months go past, and near the end of a row I mention how he doesn’t seem serious about us anyway as he hasn’t asked. He then says that he hasn’t because he thought he should wait until he can afford the whole wedding, not just the ring. I tell him otherwise, calmly and we make up and leave it there. That was em… about 16 months ago… and since … he’s asked me outside a jewellers what I like twice… and then done nothing! Isn’t that cruel?

I keep getting my hopes up! Every holiday, or nice meal or occasion, I thought he would, but he hasn’t. To make matter worse, his friend works as a jeweller and could get him a great deal …. and he has used it to get his co-worker a great ring so he could propose!!!!! Kill me now eh?

At this stage, I feel like if he did propose I would shove it back in his face and say ‘you wait a few years now’ just because he has ruined it for me. I never thought I would be left waiting and wondering, I’d always thought I would be suprised and delighted, not fed up.

Don’t get me wrong, I love him to bits, and he is the one for me, I just can’t believe he has made me wait and wait and wait when he knows I’d like to be engaged.  

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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