Post # 1
I have a silly TTC Question.
Fiance and I are getting hitched on August 3rd, and we’re TTC right away (although he’d rather later in the fall, I’m going to try and do my best to not be Mega Preggers next summer).
Since I started AF on June 13 & July 12, getting pregnant on our wedding night really isn’t possible, is it? Although I don’t chart my O’s I do get side-cramps every month usually about the day of/after online charts say I’d be O-ing… so that would put our wedding date about 4DPO – so it’s pretty much out of the question right?
Should we not even bother, and just wait till after August’s AF for my next cycle?
Post # 4
I wouldn’t say completely impossible. It’s definitely in the ball park. Without knowing when you ovulate it’s hard to say. If you ovulate on cd18-20 which some people do or if you usually ovulate around cd15 and it gets delayed due to stress are a couple scenarios where it could be possible. That said if your wedding is actually 4 dpo, it’s probably a smidge late for the egg to still be hanging out.
Post # 5
@ElopeGirl: I agree with SapphireSun, if your online chart is right and you’ll be 4DPO, then you can NOT get pregnant on your wedding night. The only ‘danger’ is if your cycle is different this month for some reason – and wedding stress has been known to do that. You could use OPKs this month if you wanted to be a bit more sure (not sure if you want to add anything else to the last week of wedding prepration though!!!).
You can only get pregnant on the day of ovulation, and up to 5 days before, but more likely, the day of O and 2-3 days before.
All the VERY best for your wedding and your future TTCing 🙂
Post # 6
Regardless of TTC, I sure hope you plan on having sex that night anyways. Your post kind of made it sound like you won’t even bother consummating your marriage on your wedding night if you felt it wasn’t possible to conceive. Have a beautiful night (and furthermore a beautiful marriage) of passion and just be pleasantly surprised when you do conceive. 🙂
(And obviously disregard this advice if you are catholic and subscribe to the belief that sex without the intention to conceive is some sort of sin….not trying to offend anyone here).
Post # 8
@RobotBabooshka: I certainly indend to have sex that night either way! I didn’t mean to imply otherwise! 😉 I think I was just looking for some reassurances that it’s not likly, and that’s OK.
@Irish-bride: There’s no rush to concieve on that night in particular, I just thought it’d be “Romantic”. FI and I are very excited to become a family together, which is why we’re TTC as soon as we get married. He’s subscribed more to the “It’ll happen when it happens” philosophy but I’m a planner, and really want to avoid being Six Billion Pounds and Four Feet Wide in the heat of summer 2013 so I’m hoping it’ll work the first two months.
(of course, I’ve totally jinxed myself by saying that, but y’know…)
Post # 9
@ElopeGirl: I would definitely still try! 🙂 Just have fun and see if it happens but don’t overly focus on it as you want to enjoy your wedding night and be in the moment, and TTC is hard to predict. You may O later than normal esp with your wedding and all the excitement & emotion, so I’d say it’s definitely not impossible. Have a wonderful wedding & congrats 🙂 good luck!
Post # 10
Why not try the week before the wedding and just tell people it was a wedding night baby? I think the 4 days make little difference in the scheme of things and it is kind of romantic to concieve on your wedding night, moreso than one month later.
Post # 11
I agree with all the other advice so far 🙂
You still may have a chance to conceive though. I wouldn’t throw the notion out the window. When I got pregnant, my cycle threw me a curveball (I ovulated 4 days earlier than usual) and we only had sex 5 days before that ovulation date.
Needless to say, that pregnancy was a surprise 🙂
Good luck (and make sure you’re taking your prenatals now! lol) I hope you guys have wedding night success!
Post # 12
First off congrats!! Hope you have wonderful wedding day and a beautiful night!
I was not really a “charter”, more of a casual observer but I still thought I knew my cycles. Then I got pregnant almost 2 months before my wedding. My conception date turned out to be a week later than I thought which menas my “o” was later than I thought too. So it goes to show that unless you are charting and paying attention, your cycle can really vary from what you believe it to be. And even when charting, stress (WEDDING!) and/or physical, emotional ups & downs can probably affect it too.
So basically, if I had been in your shoes, conception would have definetely be an option on the wedding night so it may be possible for you too. Have fun & good luck!
Post # 13
@RobotBabooshka: Just FYI… Catholics believe that sex at any time is okay, regardless of intent to conceive (they do allow old people and infertile people to marry and have sex, after all), so long as you’re not actively blocking conception with some sort of physical or chemical barrier. Basically, they say you can have sex whenever you want so long as neither party is actively trying to prevent pregnancy, and so if the stars align just right and you happen to get pregnant at a highly unlikely time, you’ll accept the baby anyway.
Post # 14
@GreenEyedMoon: Thanks for the FYI but I understand how it works. I do however know a few catholic couples who literally only have sex when they are TTC. One couple I know prides itself in only having had sex twice, resulting in their two daughters. Granted they are probably a little more stringent about interpreting the bible than ANY other people I know but to each their own.
Post # 15
Thanks for everyone’s input.
The more I think about it and read the comments, the better I feel about it not being the exact right time, right away. This really does give us the opprotunity to have a stress-free wedding, and not have to cloud everything up with the TTC stuff. 🙂
I will try and relax a bit for the first few months, becaue I’m sure the worry will not help my chances. 🙂
Thanks again bees – see you in the September POAS Club!
Post # 16
We got married on May 4th, our honeymoon began on May 5th, my last period day was on Apr. 29th and by May 21st I was officially pregnant! It can happen! I’m 12 weeks along now, so excited. Good luck, and if it’s meant to be it will be!! xoxo HAVE FUN 🙂