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Got a call last night about our reception.  We are having it at a bar owned by a family member.  We discussed it with her a few months ago and she said fine, we'll work out the details later. I have done all of the planning and prep work by myself, without help.

Because of a misunderstanding and a lack of communication on FI's part, we may have to find a new location.  A new location means hiring a caterer and a DJ, finding someone to set up and clean up, changing every stinkin one of the hand made/ hand stamped invitations that are already sealed inside the envelopes that are addressed with hand caligraphy, contacting the 20 people who already received thier invities, finding a way to come up with all the extra cash that will be needed to pay for said catering and DJ which will probably mean cancelling the honeymoon all together because I refuse to go into debt for the wedding.

If we don't have to change the location, I can't use any of the table decorations or centerpieces that I slaved over DIY-ing, I can't use the custom made name banner I bought, I can't set out any of my favors (they will have to be in a basket on one table, with 8 dozen cupcakes, the menu cards, the crossword puzzles and other stuff) The bar will remain open, which was fine with me, but I can't reserve tables or move anything around.

I don't know what to do. I cried all night.  I feel like cancelling the whole darn thing and calling it all off.  I wanted it to be a special day and now it's just a giant pain in the A**.  I feel like all of my hard work was for nothing, and the amount of NEW work this has created is ridiculous.