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PS, I'm also not wearing any Spanx or anything in these photos. I've lost 17 lbs since I ordered the dress originally, and I plan to lose 10-15 more before the wedding, so that might help some with the tightness around the back if I do choose to keep it.
Well, I don't think you should stick with a dress you don't like, just because you have it. You can still get a dress in 4 months, you'll probably need to pay extra though to have it rushed. I actually really like the second alfred angelo dress you showed! But if its too much bling, you can't force yourself to like it. And I think the first one would feel more comfortable with a bigger bust. So, have you seen that dress in person? I know you said they didn't have a dress in your size but if you were able to look at it, see the fabric and the way it was made? If not, I'd be hesitant to order it. I ordered it blindly and I don't like the dress I got- oops!
Since you "hate" the dress you bought, I definitely think you should get another one ASAP. I really like the first dress you posted a link for, and I think the off the shoulder look will actually help balance out your larger chest. I love the simplicity of it too. The second dress you posted is pretty also, but I see what you are saying about the bling...if it's not your style then just don't do it. You alreaady got yourself into a pickle by listening to others and purchasing the other dress - now it's time to only listen to what YOU want!
Well, first of all, let me say... your dress is so not at all what I was expecting reading your description. I don't think it's 80's or childish at all. HOWEVER, if you FEEL that way, it tells me it's not the right dress. It does look nice on you, and I bet it looks even better now on your "new" body... but, if you feel like a 12 year old, uh, that's a good sign you're not going to love it by your wedding day.
The first dress you linked too I personally don't think will compliment you at all, and I'd rather see you stick to your original. I know some Bee's with your build have ordered dress off the shoulder and similar to that, so, please don't take this personally if your reading this and you have. ok, disclaimer over.... The off the shoulder sleeve is going to "cut" your arm.... You have a nice chest and gorgeous broad shoulders, but, by cutting it where the sleeves will fall it will make your arms shorter and stumpy and will make your shoulders/chest seem MORE broad. I've honestly never seen that kind of sleeve flatter many people, size 6 or 16 and anywhere inbetween. The size 2 model that's 5'11" maybe sometimes has a chance, but otherwise, I've never seen it that flattering, especially on a "real" woman. And I have tried them on myself, and I am 5'11" and it made me look more broad and stumpier arms.
The 2nd dress you linked is really gorgeous. Have you tried it one? My one hesitation is that sometimes the way the top is cut sometimes makes women with lots of cleavage get the "side boob" or pushes the girls in a way that isn't flattering to them or you ;-) Maybe add a strap to it? BUT, I think that dress, will make you feel like a glamorous woman and not a dainty 12 year old in the 80's.
I don't think it's "too much."
To be honest I'm not in love with the dress you bought either. From looking at the dresss you are interested in, that dress doesn't compare. You have to feel beautiful on your wedding day.
Hmmmm... I think I would go with the second one, unless you can call around and try on the sample for the first Alred Angelo dress. I'm just afraid that if you order a dress that you haven't tried on, you might not like it at all and then you'll be really stuck.
I would first start by searching everywhere for the first dress. There might be a shop in the surrounding areas where you can try it on. I really like the second dress, but I'm a little worried that you don't like the bling. I personally think it is beautiful and you want to stand out and shine, but you also need to feel comfortable.
I don't know anything about ordering dresses and such - but I am large busted (38DtoDD depending on how in shape I am) and am wearing an off-the-shoulder dress. I'm confident that with the right bra and double sided tape I won't make it on youtube's most embarrasing wedding list.
Having said that, I'm showing a little bit of cleavage. I'm sorry but we have big boobs and they don't always fit into other people's terms of modesty. To me, it looks like in the dress you bought, you were going for modesty. If you can, I would go for what makes you feel best. . .
Edit: That wasn't in response to anyone's post - I was typing while other people posted. For my body (and the wonder of pushup bras) the off the shoulder works.
Hey - I see you're getting married in DC. Just a suggestion - there is a Alfred Angelo store in Glen Burnie, MD which is probably about an hour drive from DC so it'd be worth a call. Also there is a huge Alfred Angelo store out in LaValle, MD. It's about a 2 hours drive from DC probably and it's up in the sticks BUT they may have it and if you're dying to try on that dress it's an option. Worth a call to both at least, right? (Oh there is also a huge David's Bridal about a 1/2 mile from the AA store in Glen Burnie).
I was in love with that first Alfred Angelo dress before I went shopping too. Unfortunately the store I tried it on at only had a size 22 (Columbia Bridal Boutique in Columbia, MD)!! It was so huge on me I couldn't get an idea of what it looked like. I did end up with something completely different...but not before having my own dress freak out. I bought a dress that my sister loved and I wasn't 100% sold on it - 2 days later I woke up in a panic and called the shop to see if it was too late to change. Thankfully it wasn't and I ended up buying a completely different dress that I LOVE and am so excited to wear. I guess my point is that if I had to wear the first dress I wouldn't be nearly as excited about the big day - all eyes will be on you so you HAVE to love what you're wearing.
Good luck! Hope one of those stores works out for you. But don't settle! Get what you will feel beautiful in! This huge day is something we've all waited our whole lives for....it's not worth it to settle on a dress you won't be happy in!
I found a store that carries a 16 sample of the first Alfred Angelo (1148). I probably wear an 18 or 20, so it would be a tight squeeze, but at least it would give me an idea.
I have tried on the second Alfred Angelo one, and I think maybe strapless is just not for me because of my chest size. I loved the way it fit around my mid-second and hips, but I could see myself being uncomfortable wearing strapless on the big day, so maybe I should just take that one out of the running.
I wonder if there is some way I could alter the current dress to make it more to my liking? Maybe cut off some of the train. I wish I could add a sash, but I'm not sure it would look right with the ruching.
Thanks JennieJen! I think I will give Columbia Bridal a call - the 22 would be a bit big on me, but I'd rather try on a too big dress than a too small dress.
Polkadot,
I did the same thing - got caught up in the excitement and bought a dress I wasn't completely sure about but my mom loved. I picked up the original dress in January (wedding is in April) and ended up buying a new dress a few weeks ago. I couldn't get a rush order so I called 20 different stores and found a sample in my size. I haven't thought twice about spending the extra money because I got the peace of mind I needed.
Get a new dress if you're that unsure about it. This is your day and you should feel absolutely beautiful.
Good luck!
I'm another one who thinks you need to love your dress, not just not hate it. But like some of the other people mentioned, I'm not sure the first AA dress is right for you. You don't like how your current dress makes your bust look bigger, and I think that that is because of the v-neck, and the first AA dress also has a v-neck though it's not quite the same. V-neck is what I go for to make my little b-cups look bigger, and I think you might be better off with something that is more straight across like the second AA dress though of course if that is too much bling for you it won't work either. Don't worry too much about style of dress vs style of wedding - if you're a bit more formal or glam, well, you're the bride! No one will be surprised! Loving the dress is the most important thing.
Ooh good - that's where I ended up getting my dress. They have a LOT of stuff that can fit someone who's not a size 2! I was a 12/14 when I went shopping there and they had a TON of stuff to try on! They also have a lot in the $1K and less catagory which is nice! I ended up with the Maggie Sotterro Libby and am so happy with it. I hope you have a good experience there! (they even dim the lights for you so you can see how it will look in the evening!)
Your dress is gorgeous!! I made an appointment for tomorrow evening. If the 1148 doesn't work out, maybe they will have something else that will catch my eye. Thank you again for the tip :)
I don't think the 1148 will really look much different than what you have now. (As far as the fit) It will cut you a little different but I don't think it will make a significant difference. I would see about altering the top of your durrent dress. If you think you could go strapless like your second alfred angelo dress you posted you could maybe have them transform it into a strapless but add a top that will help cover your chest. I love the looks of these strapless tops on bustier girls.....
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Update - I went and tried on some more dresses last night. AA 1148 was one of them, and I loved it. Even though the cut looks very similar to my original dress, it fit me very differently for some reason. It actually minimized my bust, and I felt very elegant and bridal in it. :) I ordered it and it should come in by the beginning of April. I'll post some pics then.
Thanks to everyone who replied to this thread! I really needed to hear from other people that it's ok to keep looking if the original one didn't feel right.
Yay! So glad you found something you love! Did you get it at the Columbia Bridal Boutique?
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I don't know what to do! I ordered the dress back in October, and I sort of had this nagging feeling that it wasn't right, but my mom and the owner of the shop seemed to like it so much, and I knew I had to make a decision, so I just sort of went for it. I was hoping that by the time it came in, maybe I would somehow fall in love with it, but that didn't happen. I tried it on over the weekend and I hate it. But we are less than 4 months away from the wedding, so I'm freaking out. I've included some pictures of me in the dress.
Here are the reasons I don't like it: I don't feel a single bit sexy in it. (I don't want to be over the top sexy on my wedding day, but I feel like a 12 year old in this dress.) I think the flower detailing is baby-ish. The dress is not sophisticated at all. I feel like this dress is from the 80s. The back of it makes me look like I have a really big butt or hips, and I don't. The front accentuates my big bust instead of making it appear smaller.
My wonderful mom has agreed to help me get another dress if that is what I want. But because of how close we are, I've got to make a decision this week. The dress I've been eyeing from the beginning is Alfred Angelo 1148. (She thinks it's too plain, but I like the simplicity) The only problem is, I can't find a sample that fits me, so I don't have a clear idea of how it would look. I have a really big bust, and I'm not sure if the off-the-shoulder thing would fit weird or look weird. Here is the link to the plus-size version of the dress: http://www.alfredangelo.com/Collections/ProductDisplay.aspx?productID=3d6de46a-4412-4189-97b8-01a56d5237b9&categoryID=1af402e9-205f-4b7b-9d22-6fec77b3d187&pg=1&colorId1=
I recently tried on this other Alfred Angelo, and even though the bling was a little too much for me, the corset back and the fit around the hips was very flattering on me. My mom loved this one on me, but I think it's a bit too glam for the feel of our wedding. The 1148 also has a corset back, so maybe the general fit would be similar? I don't know. Here's the link to the other AA: http://www.alfredangelo.com/Collections/ProductDisplay.aspx?productID=f3280286-b6a8-47fc-bd7b-bc998ff713d7&categoryID=32e5a88c-cbf1-498f-afcf-dbfca138c5d3&pg=1&colorId1=
Basically, I'm just looking for opinions and advice. Should I just suck it up and wear the already purchased dress even though I don't like it? Or should I gamble and order a dress that I can't try on? I feel guilty and bratty that I already own a dress and it's taken me this long to decide it's not right, and now I want a new one :( I just want to feel pretty on my wedding day. Please help :(
Fyi, in the pics the dress is unaltered (prob needs to be hemmed, and definitely pressed/steamed). Thank you in advance for any comments or advice.
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