Post # 1
For me, I would skip the fanfare and have a small DW with close friends and family. Unfortunately, with two generations of divorce and re-marriage on FI’s side, having a small DW would be one big hot mess of awkward. I never wanted a big wedding (I’m a bit of an introvert and find large groups of people stressful), yet here I am planning a massive wedding with all the trimmings, because with 80 immediate family on the table as “must-invite” (60 of which are on FI’s side), you might as well go ahead and invite the friends you’d really like to have there! We’ve got people flying in from 5 different continents, and we feel we need to at least treat them to a nice day, which means that our wedding is about as far from a low-key intimate gathering as you can possibly get.
Anyone else out there who would do things differently if it REALLY was their wedding?
Post # 3
With 2 months to go I am super excited about our wedding, but yes, there are a lot of things I would do differently. I would also make it a smaller wedding, and probably a destination wedding at that! I think our wedding will be beautiful, but drama and stress are driving me nuts because of the people I have to invovle in it!
Post # 4
Yes, if it was MY wedding I would do a destination wedding where I could be somewhere beautiful and culturally rich, and be able to exclude his worthless loser of a sister (that sounds harsh but is a pretty factual assessment. long long story) and just celebrate with our parents.
Post # 5
I think everyone has something they would like to change…and I think for everyone having a higher budget would always be nice to get those awesome cool things we all see in plat weddings 🙂 Righteous lighting would have been way cool!
Post # 6
well if i had more money, i would have chosen a different resort with a nicer beach. and more importantly, i would paid for some VIPs to come to our wedding! (like DH’s sister and kids and a couple of close friends). other than that, my wedding was everything i dreamed!
Post # 7
@SouthernTulip: Agreed. In a perfect world, we’d have the extra budget to do all of the awesome things we can’t afford. We’d be able to invite all the people we want, and we’d be able to have a nicer venue. We would also be able to go on a real honeymoon. However, there aren’t any big things that I really wish were different. For most things, I would just choose to have more: more guests, more cool decorations, more whatever. I’m pretty darn happy with how my wedding will turn out as is, though.
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ
Of course. 😉 Bigger budget means no restrictions. I would have had a wedding planner and had her bring everything to me for my approval. I hate events planning.
Post # 9
I would have had it about four weeks ahead in October instead of November, at a winery but everything was booked and we had to have it with hotel options nearby for all our OOT guests 🙁
Post # 10
It would have been nice to have been able to invite a few more people.. but unfortunately that wasn’t in the budget. Other than that there isn’t a single thing I wish I could change about it.
Post # 11
Perfect world = all the money we’d need, right?
If so, wedding in castle without having to worry about family not coming and bitching later (aka MY parents, my mom especially), reception as long as we want and then honeymoon wherever we want without the munchkins.
So, yeah, would definitely be doing things differently in a perfect world! LOL!
Post # 12
@bellagio: LOL, yes, this is me too!
Ironically enough, I do agree that more guests would be nice. With all the family that needs to be invited, we’re having to limit the friend guest list so that we can afford it. Also, I’m only having about 20 guests from my side (total) since everyone has to travel internationally to get there. Sure would be nice to be able to pay for everyone and put them up in style. Wouldn’t it be nice if we could plan a wedding with JUST the people we really like and exclude the people we’re like, “meh” about, regardless of how long they’ve known us/how they’re related to us/how offended they’d be if they didn’t get an invitation? *sigh*
Post # 13
The only thing I’d change is the fact that we can’t go back and do it all again.
Post # 14
I’d make it smaller and simpler. We tried too hard to accommodate everyone’s guest list and are ending up with a huge affair where I won’t know half the guests.
Post # 15
My wedding is in twelve days and I wish I’d planned a small wedding in Northern Michigan with immediate family and close friends instead of the typical church/country club shebang.
Post # 16
There are a couple of things I would change, first would be that it would take place on a ship, with all friends/family that were available to sail with us when we leave.
Second, I would be paying for the dresses for my girls, and the clothing for my guys.
If we were still going to do the Patio wedding as it is now, I would have a caterer rather than doing it all ourselves and potluck as it is now.