Post # 1
Has anyone ever had the experience of being in a wedding where you know pretty literally nobody outside the couple? I met the Maid/Matron of Honor once, that’s about it. I don’t know anyone’s families or even their friends that live here. I’m kind of concerned about my downtime at the wedding. Also, I don’t have a +1 to bring, so that can’t anchor me either.
I love the couple, I just hope I don’t seem too much like an outsider! Most of these people know each other from highschool/college, are family, or various friends of the parents. The groomsmen are all buddies, and the Maid/Matron of Honor and one ofthe BMs went to high school with the bride. The other Bridesmaid or Best Man is family, so she’ll have plenty of people she knows as well, plus her hubby.
I’m just worried that I’ll awkwardly be hanging around the outside of the groups and smiling politely.
I really am hoping to get to know the other girls at least beforehand. Eeep. Should I be worried? The wedding is in July, but the Maid/Matron of Honor is in Texas until then, and the other two girls are a good 3 hours away, close to where the wedding is.
Post # 3
I went to a wedding last year where this sort-of happened. It was for a second cousin, and although we’re family, I’m not close with anyone from that side of the family (we don’t live in the name state).
I just kept reminding myself that I was there for the couple, and nobody was judging or even really paying attention to how I felt…Which would normally be a bad thing. But hey, it was their day and I was there to support them. Period!
Post # 4
I guess the other thing that makes me nervous about it is the fact that I am in the bridal party, so I have some obligation to stick around.
Did you have some good convos with people at least?
I really just feel like I’m the only one in the big group of friends!
Post # 5
I went to a wedding (without a +1) where I didn’t know anyone but the bride, and I ended up having a wonderful time. She made sure to introduce me to her friends, and everyone was very welcoming and inclusive. I think it’s easier to make friends at weddings, because everyone is generally in a welcoming, generous mood. Plus, being in the wedding party, you’ll definitely make friends with the other BMs. I wouldn’t worry. I thnk you’ll have a great time.
Post # 6
I have a friend that will be in a similar situation to you coming to my wedding next month. She also was anxious about forking out for a single room, so I suggested that she doubles up with another close friend of mine who she’s never met – who was coming by herslef as her husband was unable to come. I put them in touch via facebook and have made sure that they will be sat together. Find out from your friend if she has anyone in a similar situation coming and ask if she could just make an initial contact for you so that you can start getting to know each other. I have also been in a similar situation, and at the end of the night the other girl and I ended up swapping shoes – don’t even ask – but there was a LOT of wine involved!!!
Post # 7
Went to one a few years ago with my Fiance, I only knew the groom threw him, not one other person. It felt kind of weird at first but as soon as the ceremony was over everyone at our table was super nice and we ened up getting to know a lot of people and went out with a few after the reception. It will all work out well, people are usually pretty nice at weddings because it’s a joyous event.
Post # 8
My cousin came to be my Maid/Matron of Honor and the only people she knew were my parents and my brother. (Our side of the family had a second reception on the other side of the country). By the time she left, she was practically BFFs with the other bridesmaids and they are still in touch. I wouldn’t worry about it too much!
Post # 9
I was a bridesmaid in a situation like that a little over a year ago. I knew the couple and that was it. None of the other bridesmaids knew each other, though, and the families hadn’t ever met because he was from the UK and she was from the US. In the end, however, it turned out to be the most fun wedding I’ve ever been to, with the exception of my own, and I don’t regret it one bit.