(Closed) In desperate need of advice and/or Help!!! My mother has gone off the deep end..

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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4824 posts
Honey bee

Then be simple and straight forward.

Mom, if you cant support me and FI, I dont want to speak with you. As soon as she is negative about something, repeat that and hang up the phone or leave whereever you are. 

Dont JADE. Justify, argue, defend or explain. 

You cant rationalize with an irrational person.

Post # 4
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2095 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Don;t involve her in the wedding planning process. I have dealt with bipolar before and there is no reasoning with them unless they are on their meds. Quite firmly what they see and relity are two different things. She will never accpet him as is and will continue to make it worse. SO just phase her out.

Post # 6
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1723 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Been here, done this! I would want to keep her included, simply becuase she was my mom and that’s something special you’re supposed to share.  However, I do understand it can become overwhelming and irritating.  Whenever my mom would start one of her moods, I would just cut her off and calmly say, please don’t act that way, I am trying to have a rational discussion with you.  It was like, the calmer I responded to her craziness, the calmer she became.  I think sometimes they feed off you getting upset.

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