- 3 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
I love my DF, but I have never had the best relationship with his dad and step mom. We started dating when we were really young, and his dad always wanted him to play the field instead of being in such a serious relationship. He never really welcomed me into their home until we got engaged, and even now I just feel like he doesn’t want me around.
We went over to their house for dinner last night since DF was in town for the weekend, and his dad barely said hello and good bye to me, but whatever. What really bothered me was that his dad pulled him away from the party for about 20 minutes. When we were on our way home, he let me know that his dad was pressuring him to move us close to them when we get married in a couple of months. I feel like he over stepped his boundaries, especially since he purposefully excluded me from the conversation. DF and I had already planned to move about 20-30 min from his dads house because we would both be closer to work and school. It wouldn’t make any sense for us whatsoever to live closer to his dad. When we were getting ready to leave, his dad told us that “we all can start looking for apartments soon.” I’m sorry but I think it is kind of weird. I really believe that is something that we should decide as a married couple, and it is really irritating that he thinks it is his place to help us without us asking for it. I also felt it undermined our relationship not to include me in the discussion.
Just needed to vent a little!