(Closed) IN LAW DRAMA… They don't feel included.

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I dont think you are wrong either. They sound soo annoying and this kind of behaviour would dirve me nuts!!!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think you handled that pretty well. She set the rules that she wanted a family only bridal shower which you abliged her that. You had a separate shower with your friends. I don’t see where they should have an issue?

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I think if she wants a separate shower for HER FAMILY, she shouldn’t expect you invite them to both showers.

 

OP, trust me, judging by the comments from your IN-LAWS, I can guarantee you once you invite them to both showers, they will be like, why is she wanting two showers to get two gifts from us?  Then the truth is they will only attend the one your mother in law throws. 

and I don’t like “You should continue being the bigge person. You should have still given them the opoertunity to say no. How come your issue with his sister makes you exclude others in the family. How come you didn’t invite his cousins to shower?”

If a relative continue to say no 10 times to past event, don’t expect me to give them another chance to say no.  Plus, it’s a bridal shower, not a couple wedding shower.  Immediate family (including mother in law, future sister in law) I get it.  His side cousins are not necessary unless you are close with them.

I am glad you stand your ground on this.  These people are being so unreasonable.  I hope your FI support you all the way!!!  If FI is on the fence, then your FMIL will think the fault is all you!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper

Ugh. She just sounds a little dense. How many times can you say the same thing and she still doesn’t get it?!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

You did the right thing with not inviting his family! I would think it was greedy to get invited to 2 showers for the same person for the same reason. She sounds crazy!

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Bah your FMIL has issues. She actually should be happy she didn’t go just for the simple fact that if she would have she probably would have done what my FMIl did: Sulked in the corner. Yes, on my bridal shower my FMIL was acting distant. Here, come to find out, the closer the day gets the more she feels she is losing her baby boy. So she moped in the corner of HER OWN HOUSE the day of my shower and then said he hasn’t felt included. It sucks having people asking what’s wrong with your FMIL cuz you can say she’s being a big baby.

You did the right thing by not inviting her.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Omg how frustrating!!

You did the right thing. They are having their own shower. If you had invited them, they would have called you greedy, etc.

At least your FI recongizes they are c-r-a-z-y!

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