(Closed) In-law Guest List Disaster

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Ask your fiance to deal with his side of the family.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Agree with PP. They’ll forgive their son for putting his foot down, but might hold a grudge against you. He can make it clear to them about how important it is to stay close to guest count and all the factors involved in these last minute add-ons. Not cool.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t really have any advice, but I wanted to say you are not alone. We haven’t done invitation yet, but I swear FI has added five people since the STD’s went out and I can only imagine it’s going to get worse Undecided. I agree with PP, let FI put his foot down and then you can say, “he handled all the invites from his side ofthe family”

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I agree with asking your fiance to deal with his family.

personally, I don’t understand how a guest list can get so outta hand … but then I hear about how rude people can be and I can kinda see how.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

anything related to groom side I have FI deal with it.  Same goes with bride side.  It’s getting troublesome with guestlist in general, not to mention when it comes to family.

Have your FI explain to his parents and sister calmly on the situation and be firm with it. 

Do you guys set a number of guest space for FI’s side.  If you do, give them the max. number of people they can invite and let them decide how to arrange it.  We both found it the best way to deal with parents.  If they want all their family come, fine.  But they won’t have space to invite their friends.  It’s their pick. 

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