Post # 1
My in-laws gave me their guest list several months ago and I confirmed it with them several times before we had invitations printed. Now that RSVP’s are coming in, some of my in-laws guests are RSVP’ing with additional guests and it’s making me crazy. Their explanation is that in some cases they forgot to include family members (i.e. invited Uncle Bob and Aunt Sue but forgot to invite cousin Joe their son) that should have been invited and they’ve also told us that they thought a few people were going to be guests of other guests and now aren’t so they need an invitation (aka my future sister in law inviting a family friend as her guest but now the sister in law is engaged so she isn’t brining the family friend as her guest and the in-laws claim the family friend apparently needs an invitation now). We are already way over our guest count, but my in-laws just don’t understand what a huge problem this is. Help, what should I do??
Post # 3
Ask your fiance to deal with his side of the family.
Post # 4
Agree with PP. They’ll forgive their son for putting his foot down, but might hold a grudge against you. He can make it clear to them about how important it is to stay close to guest count and all the factors involved in these last minute add-ons. Not cool.
Post # 5
I don’t really have any advice, but I wanted to say you are not alone. We haven’t done invitation yet, but I swear FI has added five people since the STD’s went out and I can only imagine it’s going to get worse . I agree with PP, let FI put his foot down and then you can say, “he handled all the invites from his side ofthe family”
Post # 6
I agree with asking your fiance to deal with his family.
personally, I don’t understand how a guest list can get so outta hand … but then I hear about how rude people can be and I can kinda see how.
Post # 7
anything related to groom side I have FI deal with it. Same goes with bride side. It’s getting troublesome with guestlist in general, not to mention when it comes to family.
Have your FI explain to his parents and sister calmly on the situation and be firm with it.
Do you guys set a number of guest space for FI’s side. If you do, give them the max. number of people they can invite and let them decide how to arrange it. We both found it the best way to deal with parents. If they want all their family come, fine. But they won’t have space to invite their friends. It’s their pick.