Post # 1
Merry Christmas bees. I am spending mine with the in-laws and not my family because I am living in the UK nowadays. I miss them like crazy, I am very close with my family. Am I wrong to be angry that we are spending FOUR days over here? Not that I don’t love them but they just aren’t my family. I think we’ll go to America next year….
Post # 3
International relationships are hard, because it’s not like you can do Christmas eve with one family, and Christmas day with the other! Somewhere along the line, you have to deal with those 8 hour flights and jetlag and everything else. :/
I think alternating years sounds like a great way to go though!
Post # 4
We just spent 5 days at my ILs, but they were upset that we were leaving so soon! We split the holiday with both families, but I think, in your situation, that alternating years makes a lot of sense. Hang in there.
Post # 5
Just because alternating holidays makes sense, doesn’t make it any easier. = (
My family and my fiance’s family all live in the same country, but still far apart, which forces us to alternate too. This was my first Christmas spent away from my family and I did not take it very well. My fiance’s family is great – They have treated me like family for years now and I love spending time with them. But sometimes I worry that I’m losing a small part of my family by gaining a new one.
Try not to be angry – I made the same mistake. Just remember that his family is your family now but that doesn’t mean your family is any less family than before. They will always be there. Try to enjoy the holidays with whatever family is near you, even if it’s not what you’re used to. You can be with your family next year. In fact, it helps me to think of the reverse; if we were with my family, how would I feel if he felt this way?
Hang in there. = )