(Closed) In-laws are UNFAIR

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

You are not obligated to buy anyone gifts, just like no one is obligated to buy you gifts. I know it sounds harsh.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

If it bothers you that much stop giving gifts, but as MissChirpie said, no one is obligated to give you gifts

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

What does your husband say about all this?

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I didn’t receive wrapped gifts with bows from some of my inlaws, but they did have to travel 9 hours in the middle of the winter over several mountain passes to get to our wedding, so I considered that a HUGE gift to us.  Did your in-laws have to travel to your wedding?  If they did, sometimes people consider that a gift.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’ve actually never heard of giving the new wife a gift and/or the new husband a gift.  I’ve only heard of joint gifts (often times a check in a card – at least in my case).  Having said that, no one is obligated to buy gifts for newlyweds, just as you are not obligated to buy gifts for others.  Just a simple card might work for now.  How does your husband feel about this as it is his family?

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I think it’s weird that NO ONE on his side of the family gave you a gift. It is pretty standard practice to give gifts at a wedding. Sadly, there is nothing you can do about it. I would be sad about it too. Not because I wanted more gifts, it would just hurt my feelings.

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