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That is very odd that he would say that. Do you drive a limo with a privacy window or something? My in-law advice is to not let them bother you too much. Everyone's family is different, what is normal for yours is not necessarily normal for theirs.
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My future in-laws are the opposite of what I grew up around- my parents, all of my relatives, and all of my parents' friends put their kids first before their relationship. That's just what I grew up with- the parents had a few small problems here and there because they put their kids before each other, but everything turned out well in the end. SO's parents and family put their relationship before their kid's needs, and I really dislike that- they didn't help their kids at all, and went about their own business. Our family sticks together and helps each other out, both parents and kids, but SO's family is far less likely to do that. Can't stand it, hah- I get along with his mom just fine, but everyone else is kind of, well, whatever 
If they don't care enough about their son to help him and care about him, then I'm not going to put much effort out to care about them. All families are different, so I completely understand where you're coming from!
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I was thinking back on the post about what changes after you're married, and for me it's turning out to be the in-laws and seeing their actions and decisions as directly affecting me. For instance, my FIL is moving to Europe indefinitely and both visiting him as well as his economic choices as they affect my MIL will affect me.
But just in general, is anyone else encountering this? I mean, they're nice enough people, although very different from my own family, but weird things keep happening right after I think everything is okay. I want to have a better relationship, but weird things just keep popping up that make it seem weird.
Example: my husband and I are out to dinner with my FIL, and we're all talking, but mostly FIL is telling us about what it was like for him growing up. When we walk to the car after dinner, I'm going to drive home, and FIL says he will sit in the backseat with my husband so they can continue their conversation. What? Thankfully my husband suggested one of them sit up front and we all keep talking, but it was a shocker to me that I would be considered not a part of the story.
Has anyone else drastically changed the way the in-laws are viewed? Or does anyone have any advice for getting "in" with the in-laws?