- 9 years ago
- Wedding: May 2009
I was thinking back on the post about what changes after you’re married, and for me it’s turning out to be the in-laws and seeing their actions and decisions as directly affecting me. For instance, my FIL is moving to Europe indefinitely and both visiting him as well as his economic choices as they affect my MIL will affect me.
But just in general, is anyone else encountering this? I mean, they’re nice enough people, although very different from my own family, but weird things keep happening right after I think everything is okay. I want to have a better relationship, but weird things just keep popping up that make it seem weird.
Example: my husband and I are out to dinner with my FIL, and we’re all talking, but mostly FIL is telling us about what it was like for him growing up. When we walk to the car after dinner, I’m going to drive home, and FIL says he will sit in the backseat with my husband so they can continue their conversation. What? Thankfully my husband suggested one of them sit up front and we all keep talking, but it was a shocker to me that I would be considered not a part of the story.
Has anyone else drastically changed the way the in-laws are viewed? Or does anyone have any advice for getting "in" with the in-laws?