- 3 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
So, I’ve mentioned on here a few times that we are having a very small ceremony, going to dinner and then not having a reception (we thought about having small party in the summer).
There are a few reasons we decided to do it this way. I am not a planner and I get stressed out with it all very easily. Not only did we figure it would be cheaper this way, but we also wanted to keep it simple and as stress free as possible.
So. FI goes to his Dad’s house yesterday and his Dad said that if we wanted to have a reception afterwards, they would pay for the venue. WOW. Soooo nice of him to offer! His only condition was that as long as it was not an open bar, which we would not have had anyways and I would not expect that.
Now I feel stressed out again at the thought of planning the reception. Our date is March 1, 2014 so we have NO time. I told my FI that we would have to send invites and he seems to think we don’t have to (he doesn’t want to spend the money on them). But I told him we HAVE to have them, they don’t have to be expensive. Then on top of that we’d have to do the dj, decorations etc (which I haven’t reminded him of yet because we’re “thinking” about it) lol.
So, I don’t know what to do. I wanted to keep this simple but now that we’re so close I don’t know. I would love to have a party after with all our family and friends, do some dancing etc but there are just so many things that come with that.
Also, I got a totally casual dress (for a civil ceremony) but I feel like if we have a reception, I would want something a little nicer.If I told FI that though, I don’t think he would respond well lol
Oh and I also don’t know what “paying for the venue” means. Does he mean just the cost to rent the venue or more? Cause I don’t know why he would say as long as it is not open bar?
This post makes my FI seem like a jerk lol but I promise he isn’t. He doesn’t know what to do either. Ugh.
I realize this is a decision we’re going to have to make and SOON. I don’t really know what to expect from the post… but I just needed to write out my thoughts and concerns.