In lieu of a father daughter dance…what to do?

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Are you close with any other males in your family? My father passed away when I was young too, but I’ve since found that I adore my beau’s father and hope that maybe he’ll dance with me. My mother said she would love to have a dance with me. I’d probably end up dancing with them both. I don’t think anyone is going to look and be like “That’s weird why is that bride dancing with her mother.”

I can’t sit through the father/daughter dances at weddings. Nothing else on this earth gets me like those do, ugh.

Do what means the most to you! I don’t think a mother and daughter dancing together is weird at all.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@BurlapnLace:  My father was deceased to when I married.

What I did was have a nice medium tempo song and I invited my uncles, brother, and male cousins to come up and dance with me.

I stood in the middle of the dance floor, had R. Kelley’s song “Love Letter”play and the DJ annoucend whoever wanted to dance with me could. It brought a lot of laughts and great memories!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@LuvMySailor:  My best friend’s dad died when we were in high school. She got married last summer and her mother and her uncle gave her away. Her uncle took it upon himself to be there for her after his brother died. She also had a dance with her mom and another with her uncle! I thought it was beautiful!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@LuvMySailor:  that sounds like fun! my dad passed away when I was a kid, so I figured we just wouldn’t do any parent dances at all. I always have such a hard time during that part at weddings. I like your idea of a group dance, though!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I danced with my brother to “Dance with my Father again”  It was a little emotional, but I wanted to honor my dad because he was a huge part of my life.  I would say honestly to do what you want to do.  Dancing with your mom would not be weird and if anyone judges, shame on them.  A wedding without your father is tough no matter when he passed away so you should be able to substitute whoever you want for the father/daughter dance.  Oh I saw a video on pinterest of a bride who had all of the important men in her life dance with her throughout a song (they came up one by one) and then it ended with her dancing with her husband, it was super sweet!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@BurlapnLace:  We have a surprise planned for my mom. FH is going to play her a song on guitar that my dad used to play. She and I will dance if she wants to, or just listen. It’s going to be major waterworks.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think it would be totally fine to dance with your mom! Most father daughter dances are the stand there and sway in a circle kind of thing anyway, so it’s not like there’s a strong male/female role. I wouldn’t try a tango or anything, but a short, standard dance would be fine with your mom! You could do a slideshow in the background!

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@BurlapnLace:  aww i really like the mama’s song slideshow idea! i may do that too! i’ve been looking for a good alternative to the father/daughter dance and i think this might be it 🙂 thank you

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My father passed away when I was a teen, and my 2 brothers are walking me down the aisle and i’m not doing anything for the father daughter dance because thats just it, hes not there. I do however have a beautiful memorial for him instead 🙂

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

double post

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

A mother daughter dance is not weird at all, and I think it’s very sweet.  You could do a slideshow during the dance if you’d like to, if you’re feeling awkward that would take some of the eyes off of you.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I have two brothers, so as long as their SO’s don’t mind, I will probably have both of them dance with my mom and I, as more of a family dance.  I will leave it up to Mr. S if he wants his family included or to have his own dance with his mom.  Also considering a slideshow during, which would either be of my father or would include any family members we wish to remember from both sides if Mr. S’s family is included in the family dance.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My father passed 2 years ago. My mom walked me down the aisle, and for the father daughter dance I chose to dance with my new FIL and StepFIL to a song that was mine and my dad’s. That way I incorporated my dad, but also my new father figures. I wanted to dance with my mom, but she said it’d be a little to emotionally hard for her.

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