In lieu of wedding favor for mom and sis?

posted 3 years ago in Favors
  • poll: In lieu of for mom and sis...
    Sounds great! : (35 votes)
    51 %
    Don't do it : (3 votes)
    4 %
    One card on each place setting : (11 votes)
    16 %
    One larger card by the seating cards : (11 votes)
    16 %
    One larger card on each table : (8 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    3237 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I think it sounds like a great idea! A lot of people are turned off by the idea because you are making a donation in someone else’s name where they might not approve of it. Now, I don’t know of many people who wouldn’t be okay with sending donations to a hospital but still, some people are like that. I’m sure everyone at your wedding will understand the sentiment and think it’s a nice idea.

    I didn’t have favors at all so don’t worry about not doing something that you can give them.

    Also, I think you should do one sign, by the seating cards.

    Post # 6
    Member
    382 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    i think its a sweet idea and it also includes your mom and his sister in your wedding.i would have a sign with the seating cards were everyone is sure to read it 🙂

    i would not use the word in lieu,it reminds me of a funeral saying in the obituaries.

    Post # 7
    Member
    592 posts
    Busy bee

    I like the idea.  My friend did similar thing at her wedding in memory of the groom’s dad and her aunt (they donated to a cancer support society).  What they did was have small table set up at the entrace to the reception room.  They put pictures of her aunt and his dad on the table with a candle, and a separate sign with similar wording as yours. I think that it was a very good idea.  And honestly that was better than me getting to bring home some silly favors that I will probably throw away anyway.  I think one sign is enough.

    Post # 8
    Member
    10495 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    As a guest, it wouldn’t bother me, but just throwing this out there:

    As the favours are for your guests, shouldn’t the donation be made in your guests’ names?

    Post # 9
    Member
    1836 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    do it! don’t let the naysayers sway you!!

     

    i think it is an absolutely beautiful gesture. sorry for your losses

    Post # 10
    Member
    657 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    we did donations to charity as well, wedding favors are usually never used again and most are pretty tacky so I think stick with your guns and donate

    Post # 11
    Member
    3633 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think this is great! I did a charity donation as well to two breed-specific animal charities that are the same breed as our dogs and we were really happy with our decision (especially when we received the thank you emails from the organizations). DH and I only keep photobooth favors and we always end up chucking other favors, so we didn’t want to waste our money on favors others will chuck.

    We wanted to save money and trees so I just did a table-top sign by the guestbook rather than doing a card at every seat/table. I figured the money I didn’t spent by doing all these cards would go to the charity as well.

    I think the only time these things become a problem is when people pick controversial organizations, such as political parties or a non-profit with a history of controversy (e.g. Peta).

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