Post # 1
So we have found a photographer that we are absolutely in LOVE with.
Imagine the most beautiful photos you’ve ever seen of weddings, ever. Perfect everything. Well, we found that photographer!
We’ve chatted a few times and found out all of the pricing options. This is our DREAM photographer.
But in order to have him, we’ll probably have to give up our honeymoon. And this would be our wedding gift to one another for sure.
If you were familiar with a recent post of mine, about nixing the honeymoon in order to move in together sooner, you’re probably like wha?
Well we are already nixing the honeymoon we initially planned, we’d just probably have to nix the mini-moon too. Yea and if we go this route, we won’t be moving in together sooner, LOL.
Are quality photos that important to you ladies? Would you forego the honeymoon or make other sacrifices in order to have your dream photographer?
FI’s friend who is a start-up would do it for us for 700. But I know it wouldn’t be the quality we would get going with our top pick. We’d save $2,800 though. Like, you guys. This photog’s photos bring tears to my eyes. That’s how fab he is.
What to do, what to do.
Post # 3
I would rather have beautiful pictures than a honey moon. You can always take a vacation later and spend time together, you can never get wedding pictures again.
Post # 4
Besides, people skip or delay honeymoons for all sorts of reasons all the time. We delayed our honeymoon for 6 months, because Darling Husband really wanted to go on a ski honeymoon but we got married in September. By the time our honeymoon rolled around (we just took it 2 weeks ago) it was honestly more like a vacation than a honeymoon.
Post # 5
@Birdee106: That’s what I’m thinking too. I really want them. But then I feel like people think I’m being crazy, and I try to talk myself into going the cheap route. And I get confused all over again!
Post # 6
@starfish0116: Hopefully we would only have to put the honeymoon off for a few months! We’d probably take it in Feb or March. Love the sound of your Honeymoon!
Post # 7
you might be supprised how much $$ you get at the wedding. My Parents didn’t plan for a honeymoon but with the generosity of their guest they were able to go to Miami for a few days (in 1984)
Post # 8
We spent a lot on our wedding and we delayed our honeymoon. We still went on a minimoon semi-locally. We ended up postponing our honeymoon until about 9 months later (which is now coinciding with our babymoon). You can vacation anytime but you can only take your wedding photos once (in theory). Definitely splurge on the photos first.
Post # 9
I mean I know this is probably a really individual decision. I guess that’s why it’s so hard. But when I try to go in the other direction and think “NO, we’ll go with the 700 dollar photographer and everything will turn out ok, we need that money for other things” – as soon as I start accepting that train of thought something else throws me back into wanting the better photographer again.
Part of me tries to be very reasonable and tell myself to just save the money – you’ll still have pictures – maybe not magazine quality- but pictures. And the other parts like “UMM NO YOU MUST HAVE THE GOOD ONES”.
I feel like jackyll and hyde!
I can’t figure out what I really want!!! I am flooded with relief at the thought of saving over 2k but at the same time, I really don’t mind putting off the honeymoon the more I think about it. It’s silly.
Post # 10
@rumpunch712: Yes yes yes! Hire the professional!!!
If it was a choice between your dream photographer, and a slightly cheaper pro, I might say to go with the cheaper pro. But someone just starting out for $700??? Omg… please don’t do this to yourself. You will regret it. There is NO WAY this friendor is going to give you anywhere close to the quality of photos you know you love.
Your wedding is a once in a lifetime event. Once it’s over, it can NEVER be redone. You will have many years together to go on awesome vacations with your husband. You will never be able to take additional wedding photos.
Go with the pro! Get the beautiful, amazing photos you know you love… and go on an awesome anniversary honeymoon! $2000 seems like a lot right now, and it is, but on your 25th wedding anniversary, don’t you want amazing quality photos to help you relive the emotions and memories of your day? $2000 spent today will be nothing by then, but your photos will still be with you.
ETA: Take it from someone who knows what they are talking about. The $700 photographer will NOT turn out ok. I started my business and I started out charging about that much, and I was already a talented portrait photographer… but I still made plenty of mistakes in those first several weddings. It takes a while to get the experience and equipment necessary to do wedding photography right. You do NOT want to be someone’s guinea pig unless there is ABSOLUTELY NO POSSIBLE WAY you can afford anything else.
Post # 11
@seAprilbride: Yeah I hear you! You gave me excellent advice about this on a previous post too, about my co-worker that wanted to do it. If settling for someone like this, I’d much rather go with someone who is NOT my co-worker.
But truth be told it really is a bit of an indulgence considering we really will be working hard to afford every last penny. Seems almost silly, except it’s MY WEDDING! So I feel like i deserve to be a little splurgy.
So I guess I feel sort of guilty or as if my friends are thinking I’m crazy and being a bridezilla for wanting to spend 3500 on my photography when I have that opporunity to save a great deal of it.
His friend has shot weddings and does a decent job, but I see no reception pics on her FB page which is worriesome AND I am sure her equipment is not nearly as nice as my Dream guy. And he has a lighting director, which she does not have. So that makes a HUGE difference.
For me it’s worth it. BUt I guess I need to stop worrying about what everyone else thinks right? I just am happy to hear the opinions here, and happy to have the support!
Post # 12
@rumpunch712: I personally would pick the photographer of your dreams over going on a honeymoon. You are only going to have your wedding day once and you and your Fiance are going to have those pictures forever. You can always go on a delayed honeymoon down the road. That is what me and my Fiance are doing, we aren’t going on a honeymoon until our 1-year wedding anniversary. 🙂
Post # 13
I’d way rather have the photos. You can take a delayed honeymoon later.
Post # 14
@rumpunch712: Oh, yes, I remember your thread!! Haha no, I don’t think this friend will be any better than the coworker would have been.
It doesn’t make any difference what your friends or anyone else thinks. It’s not them that are going to have to look at the crappy photos for the rest of their lives if you pick the cheap photog… so why should they have any say at all? You don’t have to justify this to anyone!! You worked hard to be able to afford the wedding of your dreams, there’s nothing wrong with that at all.
Reception lighting is one of the trickiest things to master. This is by far what took me the longest to learn. You can do absolutely stunning portraits and outdoor shots, and fail miserably at lighting a reception. I can’t tell you how much trial and error it took me to get this right… and this was AFTER owning $6000+ in professional equipment; I still had to teach myself how to use it. So if she doesn’t have reception photos on her page, that’s a very bad sign. It means she likely has no idea what she’s doing, and shouldn’t be shooting weddings at all. Frankly, even some pros I’ve seen that charge $2000+ still don’t have a very good grasp on how to handle reception lighting. I’ve seen awful, grainy photos, blurry photos, and completely missed moments.
If you want to talk about a waste of money… it’s paying $700 to someone that doesn’t know what they are doing. You might as well just get a guest to do it for free. Paying $3k+ to a professional photographer is NOT a waste of money AT ALL. As I said, take it from someone who knows, and not friends that have no idea what they are talking about.
Post # 15
$3k isn’t so much for a photog. I’d go with the photog and delay the honeymoon.
Post # 16
I wish I would have understood how important photography was in the beginning. My photographer is great and costs $3800…but if I could go back, I would get the BEST photographer my money could buy (~$7000+) and adjust from there.