Post # 1
I have been designing the wedding programs, and I was just going to include our parents and grandparents in the part about loved ones not with us on our special day.
Now, my mom thinks it’ll be really nice to include my two uncles because my aunts will really appreciate it.
But where do we draw the line? If we put in uncles, then what about great grandparents and aunts, etc.
I don’t want to program to turn into an obituary. That’s not really the point of it. I just wanted to include our parents and grandparents because we were closest to them.
Right now we already have 6 (2 dads and 4 grandparents) in it. I think anything more will just be too long.
What do you think and how can I nicely explain it to my mom?
Post # 3
Personally, I don’t think you want too many. Also, I think it really depends on how much that person meant to you. We are only including my FI’s dad who passed in recent months.
Post # 4
Fortunately, we just have 4 grandparents to include and we just used “In Loving Memory of …..” on the back of the program. I agree that you do need to draw the line somewhere. Unless your uncles were SUPER close to you or you FI. Having too long a list would also draw too much attention and be a downer on your happy day.
Post # 5
We will be putting two names in ours- Groom’s Mom & Groom’s best friend that recently past away. I wouldn’t want more than that.
You could just write “In loving memory of all of our loved ones that have past away” or something to that effect.
Post # 6
I don’t think I would include the uncles.
Instead of actually writing it in the program, we’re going to have little “somethings” on the guest book table to honor those people. I think we might run into the same thing as you if we actually write it down.
For example: A Boeing model plane to honor my grandfather who was a Boeing engineer, Something from the FBI for my grandfather (harder to find than I thought!) or maybe his favorite Butterscotch candies..
Just little things that the people that knew them, will know it’s for them.. but just in a more private way kwim?
Post # 7
Thanks for all the input. I’m still debating.
My stepdad (we were very close) and my FI’s dad both passed away a couple years ago. We were also very close to our grandparents.
I wasn’t close to my two uncles. One died when I was 2 (my mom was really close to him and talks about him all the time), and another uncle was an uncle by marriage, and they weren’t married all that long before he died…and I really didn’t know him all that well.
I may just write something about our two dads not being there and then include something about all our relatives without listing names.
This is hard! I don’t want to offend anyone, but I also don’t want it to take over the program.
Post # 8
This is a very timely post because I was just deciding how to word my programs this morning. I would only include grandparents because it just gets overwhelming if you start listing everyone – and where do you draw the line. This is what mine will say:
We would like to remember those who are no longer with us but will remain forever in our hearts. We especially honor our loving grandparents who are here in spirit and will never be forgotten:
list grandparents’ names here
Post # 9
@ninerz113: That’s a good idea. I’m just going to do our dads and grandparents. I just have to figure out how to tell my mom we can’t list everyone.
Glad I had a timely post! yay me! haha
Post # 10
I didn’t list everyone out in our programs. I did a one page poetry dedication to my mom and a one page poetry dedication to everyone else.
Dedicated in Loving Memory to the Bride’s Mom
If roses grow in Heaven,
Lord please pick a bunch for me,
Place them in my mother’s arms
And tell her they are from me.
Tell her I love her and I miss her,
And when she turns to smile,
Place a kiss upon her cheek.
And hold her for awhile.
Because remembering her is easy,
I do it every day.
But there’s an ache in my heart
That will never go away
and the other page
This page is dedicated to those who are here in spirit and will forever be in our hearts.
Though your smile is gone forever, and your hands we cannot touch, still we have so many memories, of the ones we loved so much. Your memory is our keepsake, with which we will never part. God has you in his keeping; we have you in our hearts.
Although we cannot see you, we know that you are here smiling down, watching over us as we say “I DO” forever in our hearts; forever in our lives, and so we say our vows;
In Loving Memory of You.
Post # 11
Wow! Your poems are so beautiful! Congrats on getting married a few days ago!!