@MrsWe: Glad to hear. It is a good read… self powering and eye-opening.
I guess I should have added to my first post…
I encouraged you to read the book so you are more knowledgeable this time round.
I also encouraged you to give your number (after you’ve done the reading) cause I truly believe it is good to get back out there… and try again.
That isn’t to say that you have to have a serious relationship with THIS GUY
The first one down the pike…
I am big believer tho in trying again
Infact I am a believer in a girl actually having some “practice dates” as she reinvents herself.
Whatever that is that she is comfortable with
For myself, I was terribly gun-shy and hurt after my Seperation / Divorce
So it worked out well that I had a guy friend who was as my GFs said “totally harmless” (we believe him to be gay and still in the closet)
Anyhow, we were friends, so we’d go out together… and have fun times… I KNEW 100% that nothing would ever happen with this guy, so I gained self-confidence.
And instead of sitting at home twiddling my thumbs, I was back out in the world.
Gave me an excuse to get my hair done, put on make up, dryclean my favourite dress, polish my shoes etc.
Made me feel good about me.
Between reading the book, feeling good about me, and getting out there in a non-threatening way… I was having fun… AND BEING SEEN
Being seen & looking self-confident was a HUGE BONUS
Pretty soon I was able to steer my own Social Scene without having to have my “Security Blanket” alongside.
And that was about the time I met Mr TTR
Mind you when Mr TTR first told me he was interested in me as more than a friend, I told him I wasn’t ready… I liked the relationship we had with common friends… part of a bigger circle
Lol, in time Mr TTR wore me down (he was so adorable / caring… it was hard to ignore him forever)
And we went out on our first date… I remember I was super nervous, but I had learned a lot about myself by reading the books and having those “Practice Dates” (remember I was married for over 20 Years… I hadn’t dated in decades)
So ya I agree with @MissMarple: (Reply # 9) and her options… just realize that you have options… they are WHATEVER YOU ARE COMFORTABLE WITH
It doesn’t have to be BLACK or WHITE… it can be GREY, BLUE or GREEN… it can be whatever you want it to be.
That is the cool thing about knowing yourself, you set the Standard(s)*
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*Standards… Dr Phil talks about that in his book. But Steve Harvey talks about even more in his 2 books… “Act Like a Lady – Think Like a Man” and “Straight Talk, No Chaser”
When the time comes to actually date someone, you might find those an entertaining read. Steve Harvey is a comedian, and he brings his pleasant banter to the element of Dating from a man’s perspective… much in the same way that Greg Behrendt of Sex & The City Fame did with his book “He’s Just Not That Into You”