- 5 years ago
- Wedding: December 2014
I guess I’m looking just to vent a bit, its not something I’ve shared with very many people but i need to let it out.
My FI and I have been together for 11 years, and for about 7 of those sex has been painful. It doesn’t hurt with penetration, rather when I’m close to an orgasm, my body seizes up and it feels like something clenching my insides where I’d have menstrual cramps and also in my lower back. Its incredibly painful and uncomfortable. When it first started happening I wasn’t too concerned because it was so infrequent. Its now happening everytime we have sex, or even in cases when I workout my abs.
I’ve been on the same birth control for 3 years, this is the first one I’ve found that doesn’t make me nauseous. But along with the pain, I’ve also been experiencing spotting daily since May. I’ve never had any issues with paps, so this is a total mystery to me.
In October, I went to my Doctor and explained to her what was going on. She was concerned and sent me for an ultra sound (that came back normal). So now I’m booked to see a gynecologist on Jan. 31.
The last time we had sex, I was in pain for 4 days afterward. I’m just so fed up. I know FI feels horrible, he thinks he’s hurting me, but we always have a lot of foreplay, lube, take it slow, etc.
Any advice, words of wisdom or support would be appreciated. I think I’m getting anxious because the appointment is so close.