- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
I just wrote a LONG post and it deleted!!! Sorry in advance for this post being so long!
OK here we go again… It says I’m getting married next month, our wedding was pushed to mid April a while back but wb never let me change it. We sent out our invitations a couple weeks ago.
A few months ago our venue decided to increase the prices on us and start causing drama because of a friend of mine. So we changed venues. Our parents were actually mad that we changed venues. But we changed venues none the less, we had to.
We are on a $6000 budget for 100 people (that includes the dress) but somehow have managed to get it all together. Our new location is planned to be at my friends house who is also the caterer. She has a beautiful home on the river with a rather large yard. She is also a caterer. Originally we were going to go with our local favorite restaurant for catering but she agreed to do our catering, and anything we wanted, and match the local restaurant price. She was also letting us use her property so we agreed.
I’ve been trying to get a budget from her of how much it would cost exactly, even though she said she could keep it at the rate I was given by the other caterer. It’s taken a month to get any kind of number out of her. She’s known my budget and I’ve told her over and over “I have to keep it under x dollars but want to keep it closer to the original quote from the previous caterer.” last month we gave her our menu we wanted and she finally today gave me a guote. The quote was about 33% more than my budget. Not only that but she’s changed our menu.
I told her the items we wanted which were :
Fried Mac and Cheese
Low Country Broil
Stuffed Pizza Mushrooms
And a cheese and fruit tray.
She says she is doing cheese balls instead of a cheese tray, frozen (non pizza) stuffed mushrooms instead of the pizza ones, no wings at all, she wont be frying the mac and cheese but instead will be baking mac and cheese with ritz crackers and she wont be making the low country broil (which consists of red potatoes, shrimp, sausage and corn on the cob) but instead will be making shrimp and grits (which neither my fiance nor myself like)
We picked items that we really wanted if we couldn’t go with our lifetime favorite restaurant for the catering, and we didn’t really pick a lot of food or anything, we’re having an appetizer bar pretty much, but she’s gone WAY over budget and has changed the only 5 things we had on our menu!
I’ve tried talking with her but she thinks she’s right about everything and keeps pushing her ideas of what we should do. I have to use her for catering in order for us to have the wedding and reception at her location. Not only will it be costing more though, we wont get what we want for the wedding either and my fh is pretty upset about this.
But another issue arising is… She was married and her husband and I hated eachother. He was horribly abusive and everytime he came into my work you could tell he just knew he was above all women and liked to try to boss me around (and no he doesn’t even work here) so we don’t like eachother, I don’t put up with that. Her and her husband split a couple months ago. Well come to find out he moved back in this past weekend, but worse is that he’s an EXTREME racist! Go figure right? Well we are having numerous african americans at our wedding, hispanic and most of my family is mostly native american so we are going to be a very ethnically diverse group all sitting on a extremely racists mans property for my wedding, the wedding of a woman he hates because she’s too mouthy (as in saying “You’re not my boss” “I don’t appreciate being talked to like that” etc) seems like a recipe for disaster.
Uuuugh I don’t know what to do. We can move our wedding to our church (and we wont have to have porta potties if we do that) and it will save up about $1000 to do that and we will be able to have what we want food wise at our wedding, but we already sent out the invitations and our parents were already upset at the venue change before, getting even closer to the date I know they wont be happy if we have to change it again. The church also isn’t pretty at all, just a new age church with huge TV screens everywhere. And we already sent out the invitations. I don’t know what to do. Please, any advice or help? What would you do and what should we do???