- 9 years ago
- Wedding: December 2008
Thank God, it’s not me or my husband who is sick. But for those of you who pray, could you please pray for my MIL?
She’s just gotten CAT scan results back that seem to indicate the presence of tumors on almost all (or all, I’m not totally sure) of her lymph nodes from her neck to her groin. They haven’t had a successful biopsy yet to determine whether they are cancerous, but I am really freaked out because 1. what besides cancer would be in ALL her lymph nodes 2. if it’s cancer what stage is it if it’s spread so far (is it in her bones yet?) and 3. it’s in her lymph nodes, period.
Her mother is a breast cancer survivor, but this seems a lot more mysterious and potentially serious. I know some people wouldn’t be so worried for their MIL, but I really, really love this woman. She’s essentially the reason that I’m married to my husband and she really has stepped into a secondary mother role for me. I’m also so concerned for the rest of the family — my littlest SIL is 17, still living at home. My FIL would be absolutely pathetic as a widower, and they’re both just in their early to mid-fifties.. I just can’t imagine how he’d survive without her.
Mr. December and I had already talked about moving in with his parents for him to go back to school (they offered), but it looks now like we will move in regardless of his school status if she is sick. I’m so worried about how to be a good, helpful DIL without stepping on her toes in the housekeeping, in being there for my SIL, things like that. There’s just so many unknowns.
And I’m scared for my unborn daughter… I know what it’s like to have the mystery of the grandparent who you can’t remember because of cancer. I don’t want her to go through that pain. I don’t want my husband to go through the pain of losing his mom when he’s only 27. He is so close to her — there were long periods of time when my FIL was just out of commission emotionally due to job loss or out of the house physically because he moved ahead of the family for a new job or school up to a year in advance, and my MIL (not in an unhealthy way) really leaned on my husband as her oldest.
I’m sorry, I feel like I can’t just put a simple request for prayer out there without going on and on, but we aren’t telling anyone outside of the immediate family yet until we really know what is going on (her parents don’t even know), so I just wanted to get it all out of my head to someone. I’m so glad that you all are here to listen. 🙂