- 3 years ago
- Wedding: December 2013
Hey Bees –
I’m not sure if there is any more I can do about this issue but I figured maybe you all had some ideas of things I can say that I haven’t already.
Here’s what happened: I am good friends with my FSIL. I am best friends with her older sister (FSIL is 4 years younger than us) so FSIL has always been like a younger sister to me. She was a BM in my wedding in December and was instrumental in getting DH and I back together.
FSIL is having 6 bridesmaids – me, her sister (my best friend), and 4 of her other friends. Me and my friend are the only ones married out of the group. FSIL just turned 26.
Even though my friend is the matron of honor, FSILs other bridesmaids have been way more involved in planning things and doing wedding related things with her because MOH and I live 5 hours away.
The other girls decided, along with FSIL, that they want to go away for the bachelorette party, specifically, go to Florida over Memorial Day weekend since it’s a long weekend.
Here’s the problem: I am a high school teacher and we have graduation that Sunday. Our principal sent out an email a few weeks ago stating that it is mandatory that the faculty attend since so many have blown it off in years past. I have also been chosen by the senior class to give a speech during the ceremony, which is a great honor! Needless to say, there’s no way I cannot attend the graduation.
MOH also did not want to go during Memorial Day weekend as she and her husband were planning on going camping. They changed their plans and she is reluctantly planning on going to Florida for the party even though she really doesn’t want to spend the money. The other BMs are single and have no problem spending the money on an expensive weekend like that (we would all have to fly as we live in the midwest).
So, money aside, I explained to FSIL my situation, that I cannot attend at all. It would be silly to go Friday only to have to fly home Saturday. And god forbid if something happened where I couldn’t get back Saturday, I would be putting my job in jepardy.
FSIL said “she’s cool” with it but she’s been very distant from me since I told her. I said if it was any other weekend I would attend.
MOH says she’ll just have to get over it, as she could be a bit of a diva and has shown on occassion to be a bit of a bridezilla. MOH is totally on my side and has tried to explain to her sister that I’m not trying to blow her off.
I think FSILs coolness to me in part stems from the fact I got married before her, because she had to hold off on her wedding for a year because MOH got married last summer and her parents did not want 2 weddings the same summer. But she has had all the focus on her since the beginning of the year so I would like to think she would be over the whole “stealing the spotlight” issue, but maybe I’m wrong.
Is there anything else I can say?