I would not mention it at an interview. I would wait until I received a job offer, then raise the subject. It will be much more difficult for them to withdraw an offer once they have made it, than it would be for them to just not make the offer, if you told them in an interview.
I interviewed while engaged. Generally I didn't mention it. The only time I did, it was in an explanation of why I wanted to move to that area (some of fiance's family lived there) and was a selling point. In the job I accepted, I told it after I received the offer but before the 2 month process of background checking.
I think most places do give you vacation the first year - just maybe not priority in dates around popular holidays and some restrict using it the first year. I didn't have much for my wedding 2 months in (I didn't earn any days the first month in, so only had a day plus 3 personal days). My boss would have given me time off unpaid I think, but I didn't ask - we took three days, one before and two after and we plan to do a honeymoon later.
I've never heard of a job that made you wait a year to take vacation. Ever. That's crazy!
Don't mention the wedding, especially one that far off. Wait till you get offered the job, then cross that bridge.
I do not discuss maternity leave, pay, or vacation time until I have an offer in my hand. I have never taken my engagement or wedding ring off for an interview but I also never brought up my wedding, marriage, or family planning during an interview. I would not feel comfortable discussing those topics until an offer has been made. What if there is another candidate that they also like who has the same skills, qualifications, education, or experience as you? Don't give them any reason, no matter how small, to discount you or to offer someone else the job!
@crayfish: good point. I have switched jobs three times so far this year (gah!). The first time I received vacation time immediately, the second time I received it after 3 months, and I think I have started accrewing it immedately with this job but it will be a while until I have enough to make use of it. A year seems insane!
Never mention these things at an interview. You only mention it when offerred the job and even then it's merely requesting the time off for your wedding and honeymoon (usually with the understanding that you may not be paid for it unless you have accrude vacation time before then.)
No! Some employers will think marriage = babies = not taking job seriously = leaving.
I used to be a hiring manager. DON'T mention it. Everything else you say after that will be null and void.
Don't mention it. Bring it up once yuo've received an offer, if even then.... I can't imagine a place that wouldn't let you take a week off after working there 10 months!
No way!!! I wouldn't even mention it until I've signed a contract and started working there.
No don't mention...in fact if they ask or noticed your engaged tell them your still planning and the wedding will interfere with your productivity at all!!!
Another vote for don't tell. When they offer you the job, ask how vacation days work and when you'd be eligible for them. If you'd be eligible for vacation by the time of the wedding, don't tell them about the wedding until you start and request those days off. Good luck at the interview!
I would also not wear your engagement ring to the interview, you don't want anyone making assumptions either.
@Stace126: Same boat as you. Had an interview yesterday and have another Friday. It came up that I was engaged yesterday (no details beyond that), but I subsequently got a call from their HR about moving to the next step. I will not bring it up in the one on Friday for the same reason as you, but if it comes up or they directly ask, whatevs.
For my first wedding years ago, I waited until they called with the offer to mention my wedding. And I only told them b/c 4 months later I was getting married and needed time off. They said it wouldn't be a problem but I'd have to take it unpaid since I wouldn't have any time accrued.
I guess my concern is that I don't want to take the job and then be denied vacation time. Then what would I do?
Also, a lot of places I've interviewed for have asked, "Do you have any appointments, vacations, etc. coming up that we'd need to know about?" So I don't want to lie, but I feel as though telling them about the wedding plans may give them a reason NOT to give me the job.
@crayfish: Waiting a year for a week's paid vacation is pretty normal where I live. I wish this weren't the case though; it SUCKS!
The only people/jobs who get vacation quicker is if they work shifts (hospital, industrial employees) and they acrew (sp?) time off for every 2 weeks they work or something. I'd kill for this benefit but it's pretty hard to come buy around here.
@Stace126: I still wouldnt feel the need to mention it. If it was a normal vacation you were taking in 12 months would you tell them? I wouldnt because a lot of plans can change in 12 months. And I cant see them denying vacation when its for a wedding and you would theoretically be giving over 6 months notice; if they do end up saying no its time to hit the pavement again.
Another vote for don't mention it. It's illegal for them to ask about your marital status, so why give them information that they couldn't get otherwise?
I am actually in the same boat, and I'm taking off my ring. It feels somewhat dishonest, and I'm not crazy about it, but every older woman I've ever asked about it has said that is absolutely what they would do.
@crayfish: My job doesn't allow days off in the first year. I think I can take unpaid leave, but it is frowned upon. I know I work Christmas eve and the day before and after Thanksgiving. Its awesome because I can't see my family for a whole year (they live several states away). I also work all saturdays. :/
@Stace126: It's doubtful they will deny you time off, but whether or not you get paid for it will depend. Think about it this way, worst case scenario you need to take the time unpaid, so you would lose maybe 7 days of pay total. Would that be worth turning a job down for, if it makes you keep looking for a job, potentially adding more time before you get one? I doubt it! So I still wouldn't tell them.
No. If you're working with a recruiter, ask about vacation policy etc so you have an idea. If/when you get an offer, and depending on the policy, you can say which dates off you'll need. Do not mention your wedding during the interview if you want to be taken seriously.
I mentioned it. They asked me if I had any dates coming up that would make it difficult for me to travel, and I specifically said my wedding. (Note: this was after them telling me how family oriented they are, and etc.) People get married all the time, and we're not taking a honeymoon, so I see no reason not to be up front with them.
I would much rather be honest from the go than have it become an issue later.
I was interviewing right before my wedding and didn't mention my wedding any honeymoon until I was further along in the process and they were asking about my availability. I was upfront with them, and they were willing to work with me and stuff offered me the the job!
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I have an interview in 2 days and I am wondering if I should mention my wedding, which is 10 months away.
The only reason I would mention it is because I obviously need time off for the wedding. I'm thinking of taking 2 days off before the wedding, and then 1 week off for the honeymoon.
I know most places only give you vacation once you're there for a year, so I feel as though I should mention this up front (since mine is less than a year away). I understand if the days off can't be paid, but I'm not going to take a job theat won't let me have off for my wedding so ... just curious.
What do you bees recommend?