in the interview: mention wedding or not?

posted 2 years ago in Career
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would not mention it at an interview. I would wait until I received a job offer, then raise the subject. It will be much more difficult for them to withdraw an offer once they have made it, than it would be for them to just not make the offer, if you told them in an interview.

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I interviewed while engaged.  Generally I didn’t mention it.  The only time I did, it was in an explanation of why I wanted to move to that area (some of fiance’s family lived there) and was a selling point. In the job I accepted, I told it after I received the offer but before the 2 month process of background checking.

I think most places do give you vacation the first year – just maybe not priority in dates around popular holidays and some restrict using it the first year.  I didn’t have much for my wedding 2 months in (I didn’t earn any days the first month in, so only had a day plus 3 personal days).  My boss would have given me time off unpaid I think, but I didn’t ask – we took three days, one before and two after and we plan to do a honeymoon later.

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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’ve never heard of a job that made you wait a year to take vacation. Ever. That’s crazy!

Don’t mention the wedding, especially one that far off. Wait till you get offered the job, then cross that bridge.

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I do not discuss maternity leave, pay, or vacation time until I have an offer in my hand. I have never taken my engagement or wedding ring off for an interview but I also never brought up my wedding, marriage, or family planning during an interview. I would not feel comfortable discussing those topics until an offer has been made. What if there is another candidate that they also like who has the same skills, qualifications, education, or experience as you? Don’t give them any reason, no matter how small, to discount you or to offer someone else the job!

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

@crayfish:  good point. I have switched jobs three times so far this year (gah!). The first time I received vacation time immediately, the second time I received it after 3 months, and I think I have started accrewing it immedately with this job but it will be a while until I have enough to make use of it. A year seems insane!

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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Never mention these things at an interview.  You only mention it when offerred the job and even then it’s merely requesting the time off for your wedding and honeymoon (usually with the understanding that you may not be paid for it unless you have accrude vacation time before then.)

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

No!  Some employers will think marriage = babies = not taking job seriously = leaving. 

 

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I used to be a hiring manager. DON’T mention it. Everything else you say after that will be null and void.

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Don’t mention it. Bring it up once yuo’ve received an offer, if even then…. I can’t imagine a place that wouldn’t let you take a week off after working there 10 months!

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

No way!!! I wouldn’t even mention it until I’ve signed a contract and started working there. 

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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

No don’t mention…in fact if they ask or noticed your engaged tell them your still planning and the wedding will interfere with your productivity at all!!!

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Another vote for don’t tell. When they offer you the job, ask how vacation days work and when you’d be eligible for them. If you’d be eligible for vacation by the time of the wedding, don’t tell them about the wedding until you start and request those days off. Good luck at the interview!

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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I would also not wear your engagement ring to the interview, you don’t want anyone making assumptions either.

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