Post # 1
I have an interview in 2 days and I am wondering if I should mention my wedding, which is 10 months away.
The only reason I would mention it is because I obviously need time off for the wedding. I’m thinking of taking 2 days off before the wedding, and then 1 week off for the honeymoon.
I know most places only give you vacation once you’re there for a year, so I feel as though I should mention this up front (since mine is less than a year away). I understand if the days off can’t be paid, but I’m not going to take a job theat won’t let me have off for my wedding so … just curious.
What do you bees recommend?
Post # 3
I would not mention it at an interview. I would wait until I received a job offer, then raise the subject. It will be much more difficult for them to withdraw an offer once they have made it, than it would be for them to just not make the offer, if you told them in an interview.
Post # 4
I interviewed while engaged. Generally I didn’t mention it. The only time I did, it was in an explanation of why I wanted to move to that area (some of fiance’s family lived there) and was a selling point. In the job I accepted, I told it after I received the offer but before the 2 month process of background checking.
I think most places do give you vacation the first year – just maybe not priority in dates around popular holidays and some restrict using it the first year. I didn’t have much for my wedding 2 months in (I didn’t earn any days the first month in, so only had a day plus 3 personal days). My boss would have given me time off unpaid I think, but I didn’t ask – we took three days, one before and two after and we plan to do a honeymoon later.
Post # 5
I’ve never heard of a job that made you wait a year to take vacation. Ever. That’s crazy!
Don’t mention the wedding, especially one that far off. Wait till you get offered the job, then cross that bridge.
Post # 6
I do not discuss maternity leave, pay, or vacation time until I have an offer in my hand. I have never taken my engagement or wedding ring off for an interview but I also never brought up my wedding, marriage, or family planning during an interview. I would not feel comfortable discussing those topics until an offer has been made. What if there is another candidate that they also like who has the same skills, qualifications, education, or experience as you? Don’t give them any reason, no matter how small, to discount you or to offer someone else the job!
Post # 7
@crayfish: good point. I have switched jobs three times so far this year (gah!). The first time I received vacation time immediately, the second time I received it after 3 months, and I think I have started accrewing it immedately with this job but it will be a while until I have enough to make use of it. A year seems insane!
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Never mention these things at an interview. You only mention it when offerred the job and even then it’s merely requesting the time off for your wedding and honeymoon (usually with the understanding that you may not be paid for it unless you have accrude vacation time before then.)
Post # 9
No! Some employers will think marriage = babies = not taking job seriously = leaving.
Post # 10
I used to be a hiring manager. DON’T mention it. Everything else you say after that will be null and void.
Post # 11
Don’t mention it. Bring it up once yuo’ve received an offer, if even then…. I can’t imagine a place that wouldn’t let you take a week off after working there 10 months!
Post # 12
No way!!! I wouldn’t even mention it until I’ve signed a contract and started working there.
Post # 13
No don’t mention…in fact if they ask or noticed your engaged tell them your still planning and the wedding will interfere with your productivity at all!!!
Post # 14
Another vote for don’t tell. When they offer you the job, ask how vacation days work and when you’d be eligible for them. If you’d be eligible for vacation by the time of the wedding, don’t tell them about the wedding until you start and request those days off. Good luck at the interview!
Post # 15
I would also not wear your engagement ring to the interview, you don’t want anyone making assumptions either.
Post # 16
@peonies327: +1, unless you’re trying to relocate and use Fiance as your reason.