In the wedding party which people match?

posted 3 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
2429 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Every one of the guys wore the same tux (groomsmen, father in law, and grandpa in law), my husband would have but he ended up like a slimmer fit better.  My husband wore a silver vest/tie, the groomsmen wore charcoal vests/ties, and the dad/grandpa wore black vests/tie.   I don’t think there are necessarily rules for this.  I also didn’t have any of the guys wear the same color vest/tie as my girls because I’m not the biggest fan of such a matching look. But everybody’s tastes are different so it just depends on what you like.

Post # 4
7025 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Soon2BD-CBee:  Generally the groomsmen all wear the same thing and the groom slightly different. The dads are not part of the wedding party and can wear what they want (within reason). But in some places the dads do match; the rules aren’t set in stone. It’s up to you (and your dads).

At my wedding, the groom and groomsmen all wore identical tuxes, and the dads each wore a suit (and didn’t try to match each other). All of them (including the dads) wore a boutonnière .

Post # 5
2878 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

At our wedding, the groom and groomsmen will all match, as they are all in traditional black and white tuxes.  The only difference is that FI has a different boutonniere and different cufflinks.  My dad is wearing his own tux, so he will look similar to them (his dad is one of the groomsmen).

Typically, the groomsmen all match and the groom almost matches but has something slightly different, and the dads wear what they want. 

Post # 6
1148 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

At our wedding, my husband wore an ivory vest/tie to match my dress, and the GM wore silver vests and ties to go with wedding colors. My dad had a plain old black vest, if I remember correctly.

Post # 8
778 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Typically the groom matches the bride, and the groomsmen match the bridesmaids. You want to make sure that not only do you, the bride, stand out–but that your groom also stands out too! 

Post # 10
463 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@paula1248:  I agree with this.

In my mind before the wedding, I thought FI would be in a white vest with a white tie and the groomsmen in a black vest with a black tie, both in black suits with white shirts.

FI has gone and bought his suit in charcoal…which is a color I prefer to black, but this means he won’t be wearing the same suit as the groomsmen unless he asks them to buy theirs too, which is unreasonable.  So FI will be in charcoal and the groomsmen will be in mid-gray, probably, because I anticipate matching the charcoal will be too complicated.

I know FI has a matching charcoal vest…he might be further differentiated in being the only one in a vest, but I doubt it.

No idea about the ties, but there will probably be some cohesion among them (it’s not tough to coordinate with me and the men to the maids…the charcoal already does with my dress, and the maids are in ivory too, so that’s easy to pair up).

Post # 11
2915 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

Our groomsmen and my FI are all wearing the same charcoal suit, but FI has a different color tie.

Post # 13
3249 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Soon2BD-CBee:  They can all match  – a groomsman’s uniform, if you will – or they can all simply dress to a certain dress code.  For example, you could just say “morning dress” and leave it at that, if you wanted.  Or “morning dress, but this general colour scheme for your accessories”  I’m having mine wear medium grey lounge suits, white shirts with double cuffs, and black shoes (Oxfords, bluchers/derbys, whatever).  If you want them identical, hiring their kit is the easiest.  I, personally, would rather they look good, than look identical.  Hired clothes never fit perfectly – it’s just not possible, since they can’t be altered.

Normally, they all have button holes.  But, I would do one of these combinations, if you’re going to stray from that:

Groom only with buttonhole, OR Groom & Best Man with buttonholes OR Everyone with buttonholes, OR no one with buttonholes. 

The fathers also, normally, wear buttonholes.  You might do the same with clothing, by having the ushers in one outfit, the best man in a different one, and the groom in another.  (or any of the combinations above)

Personally, I prefer the coordinated look to the “matching” look.  It also allows them to purchase clothes that suit them, that they like, and will wear again.  It’s a better use of their money than something they’ll only wear once.

Post # 14
1226 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

My FI is wearing the same suit as his groomsmen, but a different colour pocket handkerchief (FI’s is white, groomsmen’s are ruby red to match the BM dresses) and boutonniere. They were going to wear different coloured bow ties as well, but all fell in love with the simple black bow tie!

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