(Closed) In the wedding…

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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1701 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Honestly, I only expected my BMs to pay for their dresses and be there for the wedding.  I think some people are a little crazy with what they “require” their BMs to do.  Heelloo…aren’t these your friends?  We had my shower the week before the wedding because everyone lived out of town.  And 2 BMs still couldn’t make it.

When the invitations come up, I would give the bride a call and politely explain what you just said here–you would love to be there but just can’t afford the extra trip.  If you can afford to send a gift, that is great.  For the bachelorette party, perhaps you could send the organizer (MOH?) some money to contribute, even if you can’t be there for the actual event.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think they probably dont expect you for the shower and bachelorette, but it is polite to send you an invite.   I agree, just be clear with saying what you can do.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would just explain to the hosts of the parties that you are not able to come.  Also, be sure you talk to your brother and his fiance too and let them know.  Don’t just RSVP no with no explanation to them.  I think you should also send a gift for the shower even if you can’t come. 

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