In this situation, would you eat and go?

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
251 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Personally I’d be ready to go after coffee, maybe even before if they’re taking too long to serve the coffee. Are you having any kind of background music? 

Post # 4
3280 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I think most people will likely leave after dinner once they realize it’s pretty much over. I’m sure some family/people you don’t see often may stay a little but I wouldn’t expect too much with no music.

Post # 6
904 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

DH and I would totally hang out after dinner/dessert– especially with such an intimate group! We love to just sit and chat and catch up with family. The day is about celebrating with the couple, not being “externally entertained” 🙂

Post # 7
2108 posts
Buzzing bee

@CARA1978:  The intimate atmosphere will definitely lend itself to a relaxed, amiable party. Some of my favourite parties/nights out were because of the amazing people I was with and the conversations we had. So, if the other guests are engaging and interesting, I would definitely stay. I am certain your guests will still enjoy each other’s company. 🙂

Post # 8
2460 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

We’re having a similar reception. We’re having around 30 people and we rented out an entire restaurant… we have an open bar and we’re planning on having most people stay until we’re kicked out. I know as a guest at this kind of wedding I would stay around to talk and hang out. We’re all staying at the same hotel (the restaurant is in the hotel) so I think that will make it fun too.

Post # 9
142 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

If there was good conversation and a group of friends/family I hadn’t seen in a while, I’d stick around and chat.  Is it a restaurant or an open venue where you are free to walk around and chat with different people? Is there an open bar? or at least A bar?

It’ll be “harder” to have people stick around without music/dancing/traditional wedding activities.  But if guests are free to move around, chat with people they haven’t seen in a while, meet new people, etc. that might keep people engaged longer.Also, it’s a wedding.  I’d like to think that guests understand that this is a special event and would stick around so long as the bride and groom are hanging out and having fun.


Post # 10
1443 posts
Bumble bee

It would depend entirely on your guests.  If they are used to the more common type of wedding with music and dance, than I would say probably not.  Even if they are, from experience, there’s only so much mingling you can do before it gets, well, boring IMO.  

I’ve only been to one wedding like that, one of DH’s cousins, and the family isn’t really the “dancing” type either.  We stayed ’til closer to the end and that was already around 8-9pm and went to a bar.  Mind you, weddings around here usually go ’til 1-2AM.  

Post # 11
6194 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

I would probably stay as long as I knew people there. If I didn’t, and I didn’t find anyone to talk to, I would leave.

To encourage people to stay, I suggest you spread out the courses a bit, unless you’re only having one course. I’d serve a larger appetizer at 6:30, main course at 7:15, dessert at 9

Post # 12
251 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Personally we might stick around a bit but not too long. Likely Id be looking at my watch a lot while chatting. Probably enjoy my coffee and have a chat with a few people, then make my way to the bride and groom thank them for a lovely day and congratulate them before leaving. I’d probably be home, shoes off, makeup off and watching netflix by 830-9.

Post # 13
394 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I think it may depend on your relationship to the guest and how many people they know there.  If I was at the event with a lot of family, I would hang out and catch up with everyone.  If I didn’t know too many people, I would probably cut out early.  My friend had a wedding like this, and I didn’t know anyone else there.  I left almost immediately after things started winding down.

Post # 16
8510 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Normally if there was no DJ or dancing I wouldn’t stay for more than an hour (max) past dinner.  Are you having alcohol?  I’m generally much more inclinded to stay and chat/linger with some wine.  I also think if you have that small of a group (+wine) where people might be more connected with each other already they might stay longer.  How long are you wanting people to stay?

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